A line from Eric Erikson's theory of eight stages of man. " Teething seems to have a prototypal significance and may well be the model for the masochistic tendency to assure cruel comfort by enjoying one's hurt whenever one is unable to prevent a significant loss".
This is what I meant when I said that "people love being Sad "
Below is the explanation of my statement. This explanation is a given by one of my friends in Pune.
One has to understand that brain is a set of chemicals and sparks, nothing else. Love and sadness are just chemicals that get released as stimulants or depressants, which we classify as emotions.
Memory: a neural pathway through which charge flows without effort.
Habit: a neural pathway through which charge flows a few times, it gets strengthened, and then whenever charge flows in the brain, it prefers these circuits. That is why it is difficult to break a habit. It requires a lot of will to build up a new circuit connection. Old habits die hard coz our brain electricity sometimes still takes the old path.
Love: a habit of looking at something or someone, in which a stimulant gets released in the brain when one encounters a habit. (This is the case when one sees a pretty girl, he feels happy, and tries to see her again and again; it is just his mind that is rewarding him with a dope.)
When this dope ends, love ends.
So one can understand why old crushes die hard. Same pathway again, same dopes again. I don't know whether its a depressant or a stimulant, but I suspect that it is a stimulant.
Sadness: a habit that (I have no basis for this, but I hope it...