The focus of this paper is to bring more public awareness to domestic violence against men. Our research proved that little or no concerns are given to battered men who cry out for help from the law enforcement; in most cases minimum rights are given to them in court. Domestic violence against men is not being addressed with a sense of urgency as it is for women. Limited resources are available for the abused men and minimum funding are provided for assistance of any kind. Statistics show that domestic violence reported rate may be higher for women than men since men tend to hide the abuse due to pride and society stereotype. There is a great need for equal opportunity for the abused victim whether that individual is a male or female. Researchers believe that domestic violence against women may not decrease at a rapid rate, but should we walk away when the men share their pain? When thirty years old Linda called the cops regarding an alleged abuse against her husband, she quickly came to her senses and admitted to the cops that she should be the one arrested. Linda confessed to physically and verbally abusing her disabled husband; unfortunately, the police did not detain Linda and the abuse continued (Malenfant, 2001).
Research on Domestic Violence Against Men
Domestic violence is very serious, no matter which partner is perpetrating the abuse. Violence against men, however, is slowly becoming more recognized. This would have to be attributed to the number of males that are gradually coming forward to tell their stories. While we may never actually get a firm grip on the real number of men that are victims of abuse because of their fear of ridicule, and feeling of shame. Violence against men is becoming more commonly accepted as a problem that needs to be reckoned with. Positive Effects of Stepping Forward
In previous times, and often even still, men are thought of as the stronger sex. This may be true physically, however; women tend to contain the power psychologically. This power is just as overwhelming and harmful as physical abuse. In fact, injuries as a result of abuse has been proven to have had escalated from original verbal and emotional abuse. This control comes from the abuser utilizing shame to gain control over their victims. Basically, they attack the male ego (Wicker, 2004).
Men who suffer as victims from domestic violence are said to have at one point in their lives, been either a child victim or witness of abuse. They ultimately permit this behavior, or power over them, because it is all that they know (Pearson, 2001).
Violent behavior in both males and females have not been effectively dealt with as of yet, for there has been no clarity, or true understanding of this conduct. Until we can clearly identify all the reasons that people react with violence, we will not be able to stop it (Updike, 2004).
By male victims standing up for themselves against their abusive women, and seeking assistance, it not only assists us in our research of this widespread problem, but it allows
awareness that this is something that is "out there" and requires us to take a very close look in order to stop the cycle. Negative Effects
Men's rights activists say that many men don't talk about being victims of domestic violence, because they weren't hurt badly; they don't think anyone will believe them, or they are ashamed (Cose, 1996). A woman can abuse a man, since she knows he will have little if any option in the legal system. In turn, men feel humiliated, discouraged, isolated, guilty, depressed, angry and vulnerable. Most men will stay in an abusive relationship because he is mentally, emotionally, or financially dependent on the abusive woman (Flor, 1999). The idea of leaving the relationship makes him feel more depression and anxiety. Men are normally thought to be strong enough to cope with physical attacks and to deal with their consequences (Wicker,...