November 14, 2008
How to break up with someone.
Almost everyone has had to break up with someone. Some go well and others do not, but I am sure that most people can agree that it’s not easy. Relationships will not always turn out the way people expect them to. Problems inevitably occur. And while some couples try to patch things up, sometimes, the only solution left is breaking up. Unfortunately, breaking up to end problems in a relationship can result to more problems. Since breaking up can lead to emotional stresses like depression and the lowering of one’s self-esteem, it is best to be considerate of the feelings of one’s partner. And while there is a song that says, "there’s just no easy way to break somebody’s heart," there should at least an ethical or considerate way to do it. First you should relax and plan when and where you should tell the person of your intention to break up. Do not just call, email, or text the person that you want to break up. Don’t get a friend to do it for you neither. That will be horrible and can show disrespect to the person’s feelings. You should choose a place where you and your partner will be able to get emotional and able to ask questions. You owe them the opportunity to talk to you about why you are letting them go. While you are at the place of your choice and you have sat the person down and you are beginning to speak, remember to keep the conversation calm and rational. This step is the hardest of them all. Tell your significant other why it’s not working for you using “I feel” statements. It is unnecessary to make litany of the things you did not like about your partner, as this may only lead to a heated argument or even physical attacks. It is bad enough that you are calling, but it is even more terrible if you start bringing up mistakes from the past and unpleasant situations. Don’t just say, “it’s over” and get up and leave. Be clear with your intentions. The next...