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Reflections of My Life
The Reflections of My Life

Kim L. Copeland

INF103: Computer Literacy

Erteza Abdullah
July 1, 2010
The Reflections of My Life There has been a lot of research in children and early adulthood development, as to how each person is different, between the ways that a person is brought up from a child to an adult. Other issues can be the way that a child grows to become an adult, and how they handle their own family and life. Everyone’s life if different in so many ways; you have those that have had a wonderful childhood, and you have those that went through hell as a child and until they were in early adulthood. It is how we handle our past and create our future that makes us who we are today and everyday. In my life it started with abuse and continued until I was in my late 30’s, but it is how I choose to live my life each day and how I choose to live my life today is all that matters. Abuse, Responsibilities, Marriage, Cancer, Death, and Gifts from God are the things that make my life what it is today. From what I can remember, since the age of nine is when the abuse from my mother started. By the age of nine my sister was two years and one day older then me, and my brother was seven years younger. In my mother’s eyes my sister and brother could do no wrong, and did not have to do anything around the house. When it came to cooking, cleaning, mowing, and laundry it was my responsibility to make sure all of this was done each day, along with going to school and getting good grades. It was what I called the “Cinderella syndrome.” I called it this because it was how I felt each day of my childhood. My mother would lock me in the bathroom when I didn’t clean something right or didn’t finish doing one of my chores. She would lock me in the bathroom, until she was able to find a broad from our hot water heater closet, to hit me with until her hand hurt. My mother would mentally and physically abuse me on a day to day basis no matter



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