Reality therapy applied in case
Reality therapy applied in case
Li Yan is an 18 years old man. He had just graduated from high school. When he was in high school, he did not study very hard, and he was not admitted to university. After he got the notice he was not admitted to university, he stayed at home every day and played computer. He was very interested in computer. Li Yan’s mother was very dissatisfied with Li Yan’s living behaviors. Li Yan got up very late, and after got up, he directly sit down in front of computer, and he did not change clothes, he did not wash face and brush tooth. And when he was hungry, he eats some fast foods. Li Yan’s mother worried about him and also feels uncomfortable about Li Yan’s living behavior. One day, Li Yan’s mother could not stand Li Yan’s long and dirty hair, and then she asked Li Yan to wash and cur his hair, when Li Yan heard it, Li Yan feel angry and sad, and then he had a argue with his mother. Li Yan thought he is incapable man, he was not admitted to university, he cannot find a job absolutely. Now, his think his mother also was disgusting with him and not loves him anymore. He feel very helpless and sadness. Li Yan also did not join in any activities after graduated. He spent his time at home with computer all day.
Reality therapy applied in this case
How reality therapy applied in the case
Reality therapy emphasis on responsibility, it assumes that people should responsible for their own behavior. Also, reality therapy believe that human have an inner growth power, this kind of inner growth power driven human to produce psychological needs that consistently of their whole life, and it is the need of identity.(Glasser, 1965) According to Glasser’s(1965) analyze, identity divided to success identity and failure identity. A person who has failure identity always escape from reality, do irresponsible behaviors, and feel alone and sad. In Li Yan’s case, we can find that Li Yan had a failure identity of himself. He thought he was incapable, and he could not do anything. This kind of failure identity caused him escape from the reality. He stayed home every day and addicted in computer, also he did not consider about his future. He was not admitted to college is the main reason caused his failure identity about himself. It has another important reason caused his failure identify is he felt he was unlovable. From the case we can find that Li Yan had a quarrel with his mother and he thought his mother not loves him anymore. He felt he was not to be loved, and that kinds of feeling deepened his failure identity.
In this case, the most important factor that pushes Li Yan to change is to change his failure identity. According to Glasser(1965), human have five basic needs, there are need for survival and reproduction; need for belonging, include love and be loved, cooperate with others and sharing; need for power, include self-value and be appreciated; need for freedom and need for fun. The first need is physiological need, and the second to fifth is psychological needs. Among these five basic needs, Glasser(1965) emphasis on the need to love and be loved and the need to feel that we are valuable to ourselves and to others. Satisfied these psychological needs are good for people to develop success identity.
In this case, I will target to change Li Yan‘s failure identity and instead of success identity, and also work to change his feelings of he is a incapable person and he was not to be loved.
What I will do to change Li Yan’s failure identity is following in the strategies and skills of reality therapy. First, I will build a rapport relationship with Li Yan, and explore his wants. Second, focus on his current behavior. Third, getting him has a self-evaluation about his current behavior. Forth, assistant Li Yan to design plans to change.
Build rapport with Li Yan
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