WHEN NO MEANS NO!
Ever since we are young people, men and women alike are taught the definitions of what being a “man” or “woman” should look/act like and the concepts behind these definitions. Little boys are taught to be the initiating dominant protectors of the world, literally fighting for their beliefs and wants, and handling the finances of our survival, while young girls are taught to be the submissive, meek, homemakers, raising the children and keeping things in order, staying silent “behind the scenes.” Through these misconceptions, our society has coined terms such as “bitch,” “whore,” “slut,” “fag,” and “dyke” into our vocabulary. It has also given rise to such things as “The Purity Myth” and now, more recently, “Rape Culture.” The purity myth is a lie that sexually defines how “good” women are, and that woman’s moral compasses are inextricable from their bodies—that any sexuality that deviates from a strict (generally, straight male-defined) societal norm is punishable by violence (Valenti, 299). The term “pure” gives a clue as to say who is centered around being “clean,” “innocent,” “whole,” or if I may, “virginal.” As society has always depicted, since the colonization of Native Americans, it is never a woman of color, or poverty, or someone who is overweight. She is young and white. She is “naïve” to the horrors of the real-world. It is in this lie where the rape culture begins to form and persist. According to the Wikipedia website (www.wikipedia.com),” rape culture is a concept used to describe a culture in which rape and sexual violence is common and which prevalent attitudes, norms, practices, and media normalize, excuse, tolerate, or even condone rape.”
A great example of this is the movie scene from “16 Candles,” when Jake Ryan passes his snobby, drunken, passed out girlfriend over to the school nerd, telling him to “have fun with her; she won’t remember in the morning.” It is in...