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PUBLIC VICTORY

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Paradigms of Interdependence

“There can be no friendship without confidence and no confidence without integrity” Samuel Johnson

Effective interdependence can only be built on a foundation of true interdependence Private victory precedes public victory
You can’t be successful with other people if you haven’t paid the price of success with yourself Paradigms of Interdependence

The Emotional Bank Account
A metaphor that describes the amount of trust that’s been built in a relationship. Paradigms of Interdependence

Six Major Deposits
Understanding the Individual
Attending to the Little Things
Keeping Commitments
Clarifying Expectations
Showing Personal Integrity
Apologizing Sincerely When You Make a Withdrawal
Paradigms of Interdependence

P Problems are PC Opportunities
Every P problem is a PC opportunity
Paradigms of Interdependence

The Habits of Interdependence
Think Win/Win
Seek to Understand, The to be Understood
Synergize
Stretch

Paradigms of Interdependence

THINK WIN/WIN!!!!

HABIT 4

SIX PARADIGMS OF HUMAN INTERACTION

WIN/WIN

WIN/LOSE

LOSE/WIN

LOSE/LOSE

WIN

WIN/WIN

OR

NO DEAL

WIN /WIN

Mutually satisfying

Everyone feels good

Everyone is a winner

Plenty for everyone

Its not your way or my way it’s a better and higher way
WIN/LOSE

“I GET MY WAY AND YOU DON’T GET YOURS”
STRONG
OR

WEAK

HARDBALL
OR

SOFT BALL

= WIN/LOSE

LOSE/WIN

I LOSE, YOU WIN

STEP ON ME AGAIN. EVERYONE DOES

I’M A LOSER . I’VE ALWAYS BEEN A LOSER
LOSE/LOSE

STUBBORN

HARD HEADED

EGO INVESTED

NO INNER DIRECTION
WIN

SECURE OF THEMSELVES

NO CONTEST

NO COMPETITION
OR

A SOLUTION THAT BENEFITS BOTH

FRIENDSHIPS
RELATIONSHIPS
TEAMMATES
FIVE DIMENSIONS OF WIN/WIN

1

2

3

4

5

CHARACTER

INTERGRITY

MATURITY

ABUNDANCE MENTALITY

1

RELATIONSHIPS

TRUST

COMMITTED

RESPECT

WORK TOGETHER

IMPORTANT

2

AGREEMENTS

AGREEING

UNDERSTANDING

POSITIONING TO BEING PARTNERS

3

SUPPORTATIVE SYSTEM

ALWAYS BE POSITIVE

WIN/WIN

GREAT JOB

KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

EXCELLENT

YOU’RE THE BEST

AWESOME

IN IT TO WIN IT!!!!!!!!

4

PROCESS

START

SEE PROBLEM FROM ANOTHER PIONT OF VIEW

THEN

IDENTIFY THE KEY ISSUSE AND CONCERN

WHAT RESULTS ARE ACCEPTABLE FOR SOLUTIONS

FINISH

NEW OPTIONS TO ACHIEVE THOSE RESULTS

5

Seek First to Understand,
Then to be Understood

HABIT 5

Character and Communication

Communication is the most important skill in life
Your character is constantly radiating
You have to build the skills of empathic listening on the base of character that inspires openness and trust Empathic Listening

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. When another person speaks, we are usually 'listening' at one of four levels Ignoring
Pretending
Selective listening
Attentive listening
Very few practice Empathic Listening
Diagnose before you prescribe

Diagnose before you prescribe is a correct principle in many areas of life Don’t make judgments or opinions, if you don’t have all the facts Four Autobiographical responses

Because we listen autobiographically (from...
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