Argosy University/Orange County
PC6104 Counseling Skills I
Dr. Cheryl Sowada-Alvarez
December 09, 2008
My experience in the counseling role has increased my confidence over the current semester. I feel that the extensive practice has paid off tremendously. For example, this course has taught me how to formulate a game plan when starting off my sessions. I now have goals which come with a much improved structure format than I had previously. In addition, I am able to have a much clearer perceptive of my feelings where I previously accepted thoughts as feelings. In this self reflection, I will continue to express how my growth experiences that have sharpened my counseling skills through awareness.
My thoughts and feelings coming into this course were mixed. I had been led to this field in counseling from constant reminder of friends indicating that, “You are a great listener; you really help me with all of my problems; you made me see my problems in a whole new light; and you should become a counselor.” These statements have had an impact on me and the way my relationships have been established with friends. As far back as I could remember I had friends calling me to talk about their problems, asking me for advice, and even asking me to just listen to them talk. Not having much to say or do and not wanting anything in return. They (my friends) would just want an ear to listen to them. However, what really brought me to this counseling field is that I really enjoy helping people out when they feel that they are in a tight bind and need help or guidance. My thoughts and feelings have changed as a result of this course by understanding the role of a counselor, and by the theories and technique’s associated with how to create a proper structure. In addition, another observation I gained was how to better the understand client. I feel that I will be able to develop a focus by listening to my client and asking probing questions that allow me to better understand my client. This is important because this will allow me to try and see my client’s problem(s) through their eyes and then help guide my client to a healthier lifestyle. The importance of developing my focus allows me to clearly handle one problem at time with my client. I have gained insight in a number of was through the field of counseling throughout my counseling practices. The role of insight in my life knows that a change needs to occur. Plus having the ability to know when something is working and when something needs to change. This insight leads to change and I have the ability to receive comments (feedback) from my various social groups. For example, my family is very close in communication. When I do not communicate in a timely manner on a phone call or e-mail and I am reminded by my mother. She attends to exaggerate an e-mail or voice mail with an “All attention bulletins: Son is missing!” Another example of change that I acquire is from friends indicating that, “I work hard and have no time to socialize; so when are you going to come and hang out Andre’?” I tend to receive the acknowledgement from friends by indication that I am not giving myself enough self-care. Feelings about thoughts
Throughout this course I have gained awareness (thought) of my prior intuition that I use to hurry getting the information from my client. I felt the need to try helping the client see their issues in a quick time frame. Having no prior professional experience I thought that sessions would end on the average of three to four sessions (generally). Now I am aware that there is a certain time to acquire building a rapport with the client. I was unaware of the ability to deeply connect with the client in a strong therapeutic way (e.g., rapport, empathy, and etc.) from the beginning and throughout the therapeutic process. Now I feel...