Husband’s name: “Mike”
Grandsons name: “John”
“Sally’s” age: 71
Sex of Individual: Female
Living Situation: Lives at home on her own with her husband and nine year old grandson.
1. What is the environment of your home like?
Busy, before they got guardianship of their grandson, life was quiet and there was not very much that had to be done around the home. Once their grandson came to live with them at age 3, life became “a buzz” again. “Before our grandson came to us, we usually would get up in the morning, sit and relax as we drank our coffee and had a quiet breakfast together. Now, we (her and her spouse) are up early to get our grandson ready to go to school.” She also says “We had time for the things that we wanted to do in our later years of life, visiting family, traveling and such. Now our time is dedicated to raising our grandson who keeps us going and on our toes but we would not change the situations we are in now for the world.”
2. Has aging changed the home environment?
Yes, when they were younger, they had the energy and health to do the things they wanted to. Sally says “With age came some small struggles to stay at the pace we had always had when we were younger. Things that were always easy slowly became more time consuming, housekeeping used to be something that I could complete pretty quickly; now, I am a little slower (with the help of my grandson). Otherwise, she says “life keeps us all busy.”
3. Do you rely on others for help with any activities in the home? Sally answers “No, we are still able and willing to do our chores and keep up with the necessary tasks that we have. Although, we do have “John” (grandson) visit family a few times a month so that we have time to recharge.”
4. Do you still drive? If so, how has aging changed how you drive? Sally answered, “Yes, we both (her and her husband Mike) still drive. Driving is something that you would think would stay the same as you grow old until you get old. When I am driving now, I feel like everyone is in a rush to get where they want to go and here I am taking my time, trying to be safe while all around me are probably cursing me and saying “Damn old lady is driving so slow.” (She laughed as she made the last remark.)
5. What changes in your home do you face as you get older? Sally answers, “As my husband and I get older, we are starting to be slower at things that once took us very little time. I think as we continue to get older, we will continue to get slower.” She also says, “With having our grandson home with us, he is helping us when he sees us even struggle a little with even small things. I think as we get older, he will be the one to help us more than anyone else.
1. In the past, what did you do for recreation? What do you do now for enjoyment? Sally answers, “When we were younger and our children were at home with us, we would spend a lot of time outdoors. We loved to go camping, fishing and hunting as a family. As our children got older, they all had things that they were involved in that took that time away that we had for the fun things.” She then explained that as her and her husband grew older, that they became more focused on the things that they wanted to do like traveling and visiting family. Sally then explained “Now that we have our grandson, I go to the movies, library, and toy shopping an awful lot.” But then she explained that she takes pleasure in spending time with her grandson doing the things that he likes to do because she “loves to see the smile on his face.” Sally also explained that they are active members of a church that they go to twice a week (Wednesdays and Sundays) and they get great pleasure out of the service.
2. How often do you participate in these activities?
Sally says “When “John” is a good boy at school and does what he is told here we usually take him out...