July 8, 2012
Have you ever asked yourself who am I? No topic in Psychology today is more heavily researched than self (Myers, D.G., 2012). There are many reasons you develop certain attitudes and feelings. These can be caused by genetics, social influence and group dynamics. There are also reasons why you develop certain relationships and many factors influence those relationships. Self-concept:
I am opinionated. Since I was a young child I was told by my parents that I have never been slow to give my opinion on just about anything. As I have grown older I am still quick to give my opinion but usually only when asked to do so. If you would ask my children they would probably tell you that I also give my opinion when it is not asked for but I tell them it is only because I love them. I am honest. Most people find this a good quality to have until you are honest with them about something they are doing wrong. I have always been told my writing has inspired many but when I hit a nerve with my readers they are quick to criticize my honesty. I will admit that sometimes it is hard to hear the truth, even for myself, but I try to keep an open mind and realize that someone is probably only looking out for your best interest. You cannot change what you will not acknowledge, so I live by that saying. I am giving. My first husband was shocked one day to come home and find our living room end tables and coffee table gone. I expressed to him that I felt compelled to give them to a neighbor because she liked them so much. Sometimes being very giving can open you up to being used but I don’t mind taking my chances. I have been asked if I am independent or interdependent. I have to honestly say I am both. I am independent when it comes to achieving my goals. I am very determined to not let anything stand in my way. I am interdependent when it comes to me and my husband. We depend on one another when times get tough. We encourage one another and have respect for one another’s opinions. I am a very confident person and I attribute that with knowing when I have done my best and succeed and admitting when I should have tried harder. I do not blame my failures on others or because of a particular situation. I believe that I create my own outcomes and if something does not work out for me I see it as a challenge to try harder next time or go about things in a different way. I have a problem with self-serving bias because it teaches your children that they do not have to accept the consequences of their own actions. When it comes to my locus of control I believe that I have an internal locus of control. I believe you are in charge of your own destination. Too many times in life people want to blame their failures on things that may have happened to them as children or because someone else is responsible for stopping them from their success. I believe that if you have goals you want to achieve you can achieve those goals. It may not happen right away and may take hard work but successful people do not quit when the going gets tough. Attitudes and feelings:
I will be the first one to admit that confirmation bias plays a role in my life. I tend to be more conservative politically and I do not allow myself to view more liberal news channels. I like to watch conservative talk show hosts because they tend to confirm my beliefs in people and situations. I tend to enjoy being around people of the same political sways. Talking with others who agree with me politically seems to help justify the way I feel about more liberal politicians. I was raised going to church and my parents were always telling me that God would answer your prayers if you would just ask him for what you need. As I became a teenager I think I became more skeptical. I just assumed that my parents just wanted me to believe in God because they did. Now as an adult I...