Identity Crisis 1
Have you ever noticed that there is a common and constant theme to each author’s style of writing? For instance, Shakespeare’s fascination with heroines, and Sylvia Plath’s belief that death was beautiful. Oscar Wilde’s main interest involves double lives. The concept of double lives is shown in real life based on the fact that we never show people who we really are. Wilde himself lived a double life which leads to a series of unfortunate events. His work that exposed his life of duplicity at the greatest factor was his play. The reason his literature was indulged in this theme was simply because he could not escape it, he faced it in his day-to-day life. In Oscar Wilde’s literature, there are character types and topics that apply to real life; also shown in his personal life, and mainly exposed in his play, The Importance of Being Earnest. What is the purpose of life if one must put up a front? Who determines what reality is when no one person can be themselves? For centuries, individuals have unconsciously treated their hearts as a home. For out of the heart spring the issues of life. Anyone can see what is exposed, the physical, however, few get a tour of the whole inside. Certain people are allowed strictly in the living room while others are taken on a walkthrough of the whole house, exposing little hidden parts. Although they are trusted with so much, the garage is the part of the house rarely shown. Us as individuals don’t always tell the truth to everyone. “If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.” (2010 QuotationPage.com) We contain the components we believe will hurt others. Technically all personals are secretly living a double life. According to the Holy Bible, “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways” (2011 Bible.com). Emphasizing that
Identity Crisis 2
double lives lead to destruction. “No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other.” (2011 Bible.com) One cannot live a life of duplicity without paying the consequences. Many people seek to be who they are not; they try to fit in with society. For example, when I was only fourteen years old, I tried my hardest to be who all my friends were. I would dress in the fashion they did, I would talk and act the way they did. Many times I would sacrifice all that I had just to be sheik. However, around my family, I was a totally transformed person. My only reward was depression. I had lost the meaning of life, I didn’t know who I was any more. My identity crisis left me contemplating suicide every night; running away from my home; heart broken, shattered, and empty. My selfishness did not only affect me but it also hurt all those who love me. “Life is not easy; there are people who make life harder for themselves when they take the role of having a double life.” (Philosophy 2010) Many times people merely want to impress others and inspire jealousy. More often than not one believes they could do better than what they already have. For example, “a married person can maintain a parallel relationship with someone outside of marriage by gambling and infidelity. (Philosophy 2010) Dual lives also are used to hide an issue that might cause others to think differently about that particular person. “In the workplace it can happen that someone is going through very difficult economic times and still want to pretend wealth and comfort to others, even before the closest.” (Philosophy 2010) The ultimate consequence of living a double life is suffering. Learn to live and show you as you are because to the amount that you will respect yourself and others, you also want the same way. In other words, one must treat others the way they want to be treated.
Identity Crisis 3
A young lad from the late Victorian society once said, “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone...