HED320, spring 2012
Premarital Sex in My Christian Views
Growing up in a devoted Christian family was not a bad idea after all. I learned lots of positive and negative insights that are applicable to my life. There are pros and cons that I can learn and opens my perspective of how sexuality is different in two different environments. Meanwhile, there was such a thing that bothered me when I moved to America couple of years ago. I found it was very different than what they taught me back then about Premarital Sex. It recalls my memory that I had a class at my church about sexuality that the Pastor told us to stay pure until marriage. Years after years that doctrine kept ringing in my head. That was the contradicting issue between America and Indonesia.
Premarital Sex was a restricted thing back in my old days in Indonesia. The culture has shaped this kind of belief. I can say that Indonesia was very traditional during the nineties. They have conservative ways of thinking. One of those is about sex before marriage. People believed that sex before marriage was taboo and people who were having sex before marriage would be excluded from the society. Even, they filtered the content of the theatres that includes kissing. Because they think that kissing is another form of sexuality. We were planted by the doctrine from school, family and church to keep our purity. In the beginning, I was fine with the doctrine because I was naïve and I didn’t know any other culture beside Indonesian. This combined Indonesian and Christian point of views has shaped me enough to think that sex before marriage was restricted.
In terms of the Christian point of view, there are several verses from the bible to prove that sex before marriage is wrong. "…The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13). Verse 18 of this chapter goes on to say, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are...