What type of power is typically exercised in the relationship? My husband tries very hard for the complimentary relationship and usually fails at it. I am always reminding him that my mother already raised me once and he has already been raised once. He tries to be controlling and I do not back down. Eventually after some effort, we slip into the interdependent relationship.
How important is attraction and power in the relationship?
I do not think we would have stayed together for very long if some sort of control or power was not exerted on his part. He was the total opposite of my ex-husband who did care at all. Initially I think that I confused this control with caring although I know he cared deeply about me. He was also aware of how my ex-husband treated me. The treatment by my ex-husband helped to fuel my independence and my current husband was not used to being with an independent. I believe now we both have a good balance of power and it has been working for some time now.