Positive Relationship
HKU SPACE
Community College 香港大學專業進修附屬學院
Today’s agenda:
After this class, you are expected to know :
I. The features of a healthy relationship II. How to initiate interactions III. How to enrich a relationship
How can you apply any one of the elements to improve relationships in your life? There are questions for your self-reflection!
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I. Features of healthy relationship
1. Genuineness (Rogers, 1980)
Revealing
your true self and striving to
be honest. More than absence of lying; openness and authenticity are significant facets.
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I. Features of healthy relationship
2. Unconditional positive regard (Rogers, 1980) Warm acceptance of each other’s personhood. Positive responses not because of any conditions or reasons.
仔 , 如 果 你 考 第 一 , 我 就 錫 矖 你 I would love you most if you become the best among your classmates.
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I. Features of healthy relationship
3. Empathy (Rogers, 1980)
Ability
to experience others’ perspectives, feelings, ideas and emotions. Feel what the others feel, being able to “put yourself into others’ place”.
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I. Features of healthy relationship
4. Enjoyments of joy and “up”. Feeling of energized. Feeling better emotionally after meeting each other.
Feeling
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I. Features of healthy relationship
5. Self-disclosure
As people reveal more of the hidden selves, a powerful basis for trust and understanding can be formed.
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I. Features of healthy relationship
6. Dependability
Can rely on each other.
The feeling that you can count on the other to treat you fairly, and this is reciprocated.
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Codependency???
Codependency is NOT one of the features of healthy relationship. Harmful to the parties involved in the relationships. Codependents feel compelled to help others. They are (excessively) responsive to the needs of the world to the exclusion of their own needs.
Do you always try to please or help others to an extent
Community College 香港大學專業進修附屬學院
Today’s agenda:
After this class, you are expected to know :
I. The features of a healthy relationship II. How to initiate interactions III. How to enrich a relationship
How can you apply any one of the elements to improve relationships in your life? There are questions for your self-reflection!
2
I. Features of healthy relationship
1. Genuineness (Rogers, 1980)
Revealing
your true self and striving to
be honest. More than absence of lying; openness and authenticity are significant facets.
3
I. Features of healthy relationship
2. Unconditional positive regard (Rogers, 1980) Warm acceptance of each other’s personhood. Positive responses not because of any conditions or reasons.
仔 , 如 果 你 考 第 一 , 我 就 錫 矖 你 I would love you most if you become the best among your classmates.
4
I. Features of healthy relationship
3. Empathy (Rogers, 1980)
Ability
to experience others’ perspectives, feelings, ideas and emotions. Feel what the others feel, being able to “put yourself into others’ place”.
5
I. Features of healthy relationship
4. Enjoyments of joy and “up”. Feeling of energized. Feeling better emotionally after meeting each other.
Feeling
6
I. Features of healthy relationship
5. Self-disclosure
As people reveal more of the hidden selves, a powerful basis for trust and understanding can be formed.
7
I. Features of healthy relationship
6. Dependability
Can rely on each other.
The feeling that you can count on the other to treat you fairly, and this is reciprocated.
8
Codependency???
Codependency is NOT one of the features of healthy relationship. Harmful to the parties involved in the relationships. Codependents feel compelled to help others. They are (excessively) responsive to the needs of the world to the exclusion of their own needs.
Do you always try to please or help others to an extent
References: Hanna, S. L., Suggett, R., & Radtke, D. (2007). Person to person: Positive relationships don’t just happen (5th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice-Hall. Rogers, C. (1980). A way of being. Boston, MA: Houghton Mifflin. Weiten, W., & Lloyd, M.A. (2000). Psychology applied to modern life: Adjustment at the turn of the century (6th ed). Stamford, CT: Wadsworth. 30