Professor: Tanja Krupa
Date: 3/18/2013 Tuesday
On the life—and suicide—of happiness researcher Philip Brickman, Jennifer Senior, who has written dozens of articles for New York magazine from 2004 through 2011, writes: “There’s an untold distance between knowing happiness and knowing about it.”(428) ‘Sometimes, to our blinking incomprehension, the distance can only be measured in the space between this life and the next.’(428) Jennifer also writes. It is true. The distance is so big that we cannot imagine. We should not waste our time or even lives to find out the way how to achieve happiness. Why don’t we just live what we are, which is probably the best way to be happy so far.
What is happiness? The answer could be subjective. But Gandi tells us that “happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”. Therefore, happiness can’t be forced. Happiness will be with us if we just let things go and keep cool. Martin Seligman, one of the leading researchers in positive psychology and author of Authentic Happiness, describes happiness as having three parts: pleasure, engagement, and meaning. Pleasure is the “feel good” part of happiness. Engagement refers to living a “good life” of work, family, friends, and hobbies. Meaning refers to using our strengths to contribute to a larger purpose. Seligman says that all three are important, but that of the three, engagement and meaning make the most difference to living a happy life.
Happiness is simple. It can be a nap after the heavy work; it can be a bottle of water after a basketball match; it can be mother’s smile; it can be children’s candy; it can be a piece of bread for the hungry people; it can be friend’s trust when you meet difficulty… If we want to be happier, we just need to be good at discovering the details from our life.
Happiness can be passed down. Although we can’t get hold of happiness by ourselves, we can...