Personal Issues Essay
“Honor your father and your mother” the fifth of the Ten Commandments of God. Is placing my dear father in the nursing home at this time dishonoring him? We generally get into care giving for our elders because of our love for them. However, diseases such as dementia, Parkinson's disease and strokes, can take such a huge toll on the elder that we barely recognize the personality of the person we are caring for. They can become so difficult to manage, care can be so exhausting, and guilt over not being able to make things better for them can be so overwhelming, that we don't know where to turn. This is my dilemma right now.
In our Asian culture this is a big issue within the family. No matter what the reason lies behind the move from home to an assisted living or a nursing home is a matter that should be discussed. I am an only child by my parents; my mother and I are preferably the only one taking care of my father right now who is sick of Alzheimer’s. This disease is what took away my father’s ability of doing things independently for him due to the incapacity that accompanies many with old age. My father’s dementia was a peculiar type, rendering him nearly comatose on some days. His dementia was the result of a surgery that backfired, but even with Alzheimer's or other dementia, people will, depending on their stage in the disease process, have times when they aren't aware of their surroundings. They will have times when he cannot comprehend why people are wearing odd clothes or changing decorations in their room. They will have times when they are very confused. But nevertheless, though it may be difficult to cope with my father, as his daughter, I put as much effort into taking care and responsibility for him. But on the other hand my family, my kids, my husband, and health wise, my mother too at her present age is suffering. I have my own family to take care who also need my assistance and care. Along with...
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