2013, April 15
Authoritative Parenting: The Most Effective Parenting
Children are impacted by so many things in life, parents being the most influential. The methods in which parents raise their children impact their development as well as their behavior. Not every child is the same, so children from different backgrounds can be extremely similar and children from similar backgrounds could grow up with entirely different personalities. “Psychologist Diana Baumrind conducted a study on more than 100 preschool-age children. Using observation, parental interviews and other research methods, she identified four important dimensions of parenting: disciplinary strategies, warmth and nurturance, communication styles, and expectations of maturity and control,” (Cherry, 2012, para.2). From these dimensions, researchers were able to conclude that most parents display one of four parenting styles. These styles are authoritarian, permissive, uninvolved, and authoritative. Each one of these styles has their positive side but authoritative is the most effective form of parenting. Parents will raise their child under these styles not knowing that they are also impacting the way their child will conduct themselves as an adult.
The first of the four parenting styles is authoritarian parenting. This style of parent is known to have strict rules and expectations. The parent does not express much warmth or nurturing which was one of the four dimensions. The authoritarian does not give the child choices and utilizes punishments with little to no explanation. An example of this form of parenting is when a child is wanting to go out and socialize with friends that the parent does not want them talking to. The parent then says no, which in return, the child begins crying and argues with the parent. An authoritarian, in this situation, is going to ground the child for talking back and not respecting their decision. While other parents may also ground their child, authoritarian parenting will be stricter. Not only is the child stuck at home, but the parents have restricted them from any form of social interaction (internet, cell phone, etc.). The child gets impacted by this form of parenting and not all for the better. The children of authoritarian parents have difficulty in social situations as well as lower self-esteem. They associate obedience and success with love and some may even bring their aggression out on others outside of the home. This is what the children are accustomed to. These parents expect complete obedience, so the children are very good at following rules, even those not placed by their parents. Children from authoritarian parenting never set their own limits and they lack self-discipline. “While developmental experts agree that rules and boundaries are important for children to have, most believe that authoritarian parenting is too punitive and lacks the warmth, unconditional love and nurturing that children need,” (Cherry, 2012, para.4). Unlike authoritative parents, the children raised from the authoritarian style are not encouraged to explore or think for themselves. Then again, not all parents are strict, some could be quite the opposite in fact.
Permissive parenting is the next parenting style which is the opposite of authoritarian parenting. The permissive parent, who is also referred to as the indulgent parent, is very lenient with rules, if any. This parenting style may use bribery to get a child to behave, which could easily make the child a bit spoiled. Parents who are permissive do not demand much from the child because they still think of their child as a baby. This parenting style makes the parent seem more like a friend but this is due to the lack of discipline. While this style is not the most effective, the parents do express a lot of love and care towards their child. Children from this permissive parenting style lack self-discipline and have poor...