A paper submitted to
DR. STEVEN BROOKS
In partial fulfillment
of the Requirements for the course
september 23, 2012
Reference: “Pastors are also unique among counselors because of their social and symbolic roles. People approach pastors, therefore, with different expectations than those with other helping professionals.” (Benner, 33)
Reflection: This quote reminds me that having the position of a pastor gives one great responsibility both before man and God as a representative of God to people. Additionally, whether “fair” or not, people hold pastors to a higher standard because of the position.
Relocation: I hope and pray that as I continue to grow through this course and focus on my responsibilities that come with the position I must be willing to give of myself whole-heartedly to accomplish the task of helping to lead people into all that God would desire them to be. I understand that apart from the Holy Spirit I will not be effective in this ministry. Rather, I must be completely submitted to the Spirit and His leadership in order to be effective as a faithful minister and pastor to lead the sheep entrusted to him.
Reference: “Perspective came when I discovered that most people have within them the resources to effectively manage their own lives. While they momentarily may be upset and confused, with support and clarification, they will find their strengths and handle their lives. This belief helps me keep ownership of problems where it belongs.” (Petersen, 72)
Reflection: As a Christian counselor I have a responsibility not to “fix” people’s problems, but to help them see their problems in light of God’s Word and help guide them to a life that brings glory to God. It goes back to the thought of give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach him to fish feed him for a lifetime.
Relocation: Dear Father, help me to be effective as a counselor to be an extension of you in my counselee’s lives. Give me wisdom and guidance as to how to direct each individual to find the ability in God’s Word and with the leading of the Holy Spirit to handle their struggles in a fashion that brings honor to You. My goal is to help people become dependent not on me as a counselor or guide, but to find confidence in the Word of God coupled with the Holy Spirit.
Reference: “When we acknowledge the counselee as the expert, we are recognizing the resourcefulness that proceeds from his own personal history and grace events.” (Kollar, 73) Reflection: As the counselor I must recognize that no one knows the counselee better than himself. As such, apart from the Holy Spirit, he is the greatest asset to helping “solve” his problem. When using SFBT the focus must be upon finding the solutions not dwelling on the problems. That is not to say that the problems are ignored, but rather drawing upon the Lord’s past work in his life, and as Kollar puts it, “grace events,” that allow an individual to be reminded of God’s great forgiveness and redemption.
Relocation: Dear Father, help me to be a tool for use in your hands to be effective in ministry and in the lives of the those you grant me the opportunity to help foster biblical change. Help me to point my counselees to the hope that lies in Christ and see the solutions instead of dwelling on the problems. Grant wisdom to help us move beyond the problems and into your matchless grace. Help them to see the Holy Spirit who indwells them and empowers them to become more conformed to the image of Christ.
Reference: “Problem focused counselors view counseling goals from the perspective of problems or concerns the counselee wants to work on, behaviors he wants to change or relationship difficulties he faces. No matter how sincerely these goals are addressed, the may perpetuate a focus on the problem....