On Saying Please

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Good Manners are of great value\ in human life. Bad manners are not a legal crime. But everybody dislikes a man with bad manners. Small courtesies win us a lot of friends. Words like 'please' and 'thank you' helps us in making our passage through life smooth. The law does not permit us to hit back if we are the victims of bad manners. But if we are threatened with physical violence, the law permits us some liberty of action. Bad manners create a chain reaction. Social practice demands politeness from us. A good mannered person will find that his work becomes e person will find that his work becomes easier by the ready co-operation that he gets from other

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Bimaljeet kaur
Roll no 68
Govt Sec School Sanghna
General English
class +2

On Saying Please

This essay tells us about the value of
good manners.Bad manners are anti social. But
they are not a crime in the eyes of the law and
therefore the law does not permit us to hit
back if we have been the victims of bad
manners.If we are threatened by physical
violence ,the law protects us by some action.It
is good that the law does not permit physical
action in return for bad manners.actually
violation or breach of good manners is very
common. If there had been some punishment
for bad manners,it would have lead to too
much violence.People begin to avoid a man
with bad manners.He is not liked by anyone.A
person with good manners bring us
sunshine.His company is indeed very pleasant.

This essay deals with little but socially
important incident from daily life.It shows us
the importance of word like ’please’ or ‘thank
you’ in our every day life. They settle bitter
quarrels and soften bad tempers.the damage
done by an unkind word is more painful than
physical injury.
A lift-man in an office threw a passenger out
of the lift as the latter was impolite.He did not
use the word ‘please’ while asking him to take
him to the top.The author is of the opinion that
discourtesy is not a legal offence. If a person
knocks another person down because he has
broken the law ,the former will be acquitted
.But the liftman was in wrong because the law
does not permit anybody to use violence,if
another person is discourteous.

protect him against attack.An uncivil person
may be called ill-mannered but he cannot be
compelled by the law to say ‘please’. Moral and
intellectual damages have nothing to do in this
The lift-man was perhaps badly hurt because
he considered it a blot on his social position.if he
had been kicked on the shin he could have
approached the law for getting it redressed but
the pain of a wound to self-respect would last a
longer period. If a person’s self-respect is
wounded, he remains uneasy till he inflicts such
a wound on some other person. Evil manners
start a vicious circle.In Sheridan’s play ‘The
Rivals’ the father,Sir Anthony absolute,rebukes
cthe son,captain Absolute goes out and scolds his
personal servant Fag.

quarters and kicking the page boy.Similarly,it is
quite possible that the employer,in his turn;had
been insulted by his wife who was simply trying to
work of temper which she got from the ill manners
of the cook.the cook in his turn was sore because
the house maid had been rude.A bad mood and
temper cause widespread infection.They do more
harm to the social life than the crimes recognized
by the panel code. All the same the law cannot
operate in this area because it is so vast.
It is true that no law requires us to be polite.
Politeness in speech and manners is not only
beneficial for the individual who practices it but also
for those around. Bad manners poison the general
stream of life.

Civility oils the machine of life,makes things
easier and keeps human being in good
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