“What happens to parents when space is limited in the heart and homes of their children? Old-age homes have become popular in Bangladesh. The traditional structure of a family of Bangladesh is turning into a fast, racy lifestyle, where ambitious youth are discarding the old values and in turn, their parents. The parents are forced to live out their old age alone. An old man, once the head of the family is now a subdued member of a house of strangers. The woman who once happily cooked three meals a day is now forbidden from entering the community kitchen. There are no phones in the old-age center, and the residents know no one will ask for them. The wrinkles on their faces are as pronounced as the pains of being discarded. The bitter realization that we are all dispensable comes into focus. They are nearing the ends of their lives with unfinished dreams and many unanswered questions. In Dhaka's largest old-age home, BOSHIPUK, the residents ask this question everyday: how after a lifetime of striving to establish individual ownership and entitlement, they are now fumbling to cope with this new involuntary communal life? Dhaka is the fastest-growing megacity on the planet, and the landscape of the traditional Bengali family is being rapidly erased. Respect for elders is being washed out.” (Full Frame: Death or Dream, N.D.) This is all about my research. Children are becoming too busy with their lives and they want to ignore their responsibilities towards their parents. They want to escape from their due responsibilities and trying to choose the old homes as an alternative at which they can send their parents. By adopting this western culture we will achieve nothing but regret ourselves one day. Hasan (2010) claimed that as the young and working class of our society, every single day we are announcing that we are working to create a better future and society for our next generation. But we ignore the people who have created the present, who contributed their entire life for the betterment of their children. We have forgotten about the contribution of the last generation, and the sacrifices they made for us.
Surely we are developing day by day, but we must provide space for the elderly people of our country. A huge tendency among us is to treat them as a burden. But we have to remember that what we are today is because of them. Sad but true story is- we are no longer ready to show our respect, love and affection to our parents. We are getting involved in so many works that we do not have a few time to talk with them nicely. This should not be happening in Bangladesh.
This woman says that a bench one-and-a-half feet wide, five feet long is all she needs to be happy- as long as she is with her family. Instead, she lies alone in the backyard of an old-age home.
An old home is a multi-residence housing facility intended for senior citizens. The usual pattern is that each person or couple in the home has an apartment-style room or suite of rooms. Additional facilities are provided within the building. Often this includes facilities for meals, gathering, recreation, and some form of health or hospice care. The level of facilities varies enormously. A place in a retirement or old home can be paid for on a rental basis, like an apartment, or can be bought in perpetuity on the same basis as a condominium. (www.wikipedia.org)
BOSHIPUK is one of Dhaka's largest old-age homes.
My research paper is all about the present view of our children about their parents. Especially I would like to know, who have elderly parents in their homes how are they treating them. Do they really take proper care of them or just behaving with them unjustly? Those who have young parents, whether they want to send them to old homes for proper care in future or not. Different private organizations are building old homes in Bangladesh and their future plan about establishing this kind of old homes is really huge in number....