Muslim Attitudes to Marriage
In Islam, marriage is a partnership. Muslim women accept only Allah as their master, and do not therefore consider themselves to be inferior to a husband. It is basic in Muslim society that the man is
responsible for the family's welfare and business outside the home, but the woman has virtually absolute rights within it so long as her behaviour does not shame her provider or husband.
No institution works well without a clear leader, and therefore there should be one in every family. Most Muslim women are quite happy for this leader to be the man. If the man is not worth respecting, divorce is a straightforward matter, and the woman may look for a better one. Sometimes the woman in a household is more intelligent or organized or practical than the man, so he will quite sensibly leave most matters to her-but in Islam he is still responsible for her and therefore must take care of her and try to provide for her as much as he could and not just take advantage of her advantage of her. The women usually live with the husband's family but must be treated with the same respect and not considered an outsider.
Marriage and family life are considered to be very important in Islam. Traditionally the man's duty is to go out to work to support the family and the woman's duty is to bring up the children and look after the household. The father makes the main decisions whilst the mother is important within the home and must be shown respect by her husband and children. This is seen as the natural order of things and the way Allah intended men and women to live. The man was also considered to be the provider for the family.
Muslims believe that their household is an institution founded by God and intended to give a secure atmosphere for the growth and progress of all its members. Anything, which weakens or disrupts it, therefore it is regarded as a serious matter. The home is considered to be far more important, sacred, creative and rewarding than any place 'outside'. There is a great importance placed on the family as the cradle for developing the younger children.
The family is a complex interwoven unit consisting of many people. It is not just a husband and wife plus their parents and children. It includes brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts and cousins. In most Muslim household aunts uncles and other relatives live in or near the house to each other to keep a close relationship, which also helps to build a cradle and support for younger children so that they have the right environment to grow stable. In the atmosphere of a loving, outgoing unit, it also includes friends and neighbours, and anyone who falls within the sphere of that love and who needs help.
'Those who show the most perfect faith are those who possess the best disposition and are kindest to their families.'
'May his nose be rubbed in dust who found his parents approaching old age and did not enter Paradise by serving him.'
A good marriage and good household teaches the children of Muslim families the aspects needed to bee a good Muslim and servant to Allah. A good marriage also shows the importance of family to the children and so family is very important to Muslims to sub-stain good relationships and bonds with each other in which helps them to commit them selves to each other and to Allah.
A household in which there is love, peace and security is considered to be valuable beyond price, and it does not come about by accident. It has to be worked for by all members, and requires a strong commitment to patience, forgiveness, tolerance, sense of duty and love. All these things are regarded as vital, and the key person in the household who sets the tone and does most of the work is undoubtedly the mother.
To be a good mother is so important in Islam that she is considered to be the most precious treasure in the world. Her role is the decisive factor in the family.
'The best of treasures is a good...
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