Professor E. Hendrick
Feb 8, 2013
Mexican Macho Man
Ever since I was young I always witnessed examples of men being more dominant than women, the role of macho man has been in my family for generations. The way most Mexican families function is the father is the provider and worker. The mother stays at home cleans, cooks, and takes care of the children. Also the father would be the one who gives out advice to the kids and makes the family decisions. On the other hand Gary Soto, who wrote "Looking for work" wasn't influenced by his father. Soto as a kid was influenced by television shows. Just because you are Mexican doesn't mean you’re going to be raised with the idea of being a macho man. A while back I was in a situation where my family from Tijuana got in a huge argument because my uncle was acting macho. My uncle told my cousin that you shouldn’t have goals because women are only good for cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids. My uncle believes that men should tell women what to do, which is traditional in some Mexican families. When this happened I realized that my dad taught me well on how to treat women right. This reflects how the Mexican myth of being a macho man still exists, it might not be around as much but it’s still out there.
Ever since growing up as a kid, I always saw different examples on how Mexican men treated women. It's a saying in Mexican culture that women must obey men no matter what. Men are the workers and providers for the family, who make all the decisions. While the mother stays at home, does chores and takes care of the kids. The first example I have is my aunt, she does all those things my uncle demands her too. I would go to Tijuana about four times a month for about 5 years and would always see this, my uncle telling his wife and daughters what to do. Till this day many Mexican families still live by the roles. I dislike this idea, and I’m against it. I would like to get my uncle to change and treat women with the respect they deserve. I'm Mexican and I treat women with much respect. Just because you are Mexican doesn’t insinuate that you’re going to miss treat women and act like a macho man towards them. On the other hand I can relate to being influenced as a kid like Soto " For weeks I had drunk Kool-Aid and watched morning reruns of Father Knows Best, Who’s family was so uncomplicated and its routine that I very much wanted to imitate it" (27). He had a brother and sister, Soto’s influence as a kid were TV shows since his father was never there. The second example I had was my father but he was the opposite of my uncle, He would teach me how to make women happy. My father always said that all women are beautiful and you must treat them with respect. He also showed me other examples since he treated my mother so well, always kept her happy and made her feel special. Now for the examples I would see from women getting mistreated, it would be my uncle from Tijuana. Since I can remember I used to go to Tijuana every Saturday of the week because my dad wanted to visit his sister. My uncle who is my aunts husband was raised with the idea of being dominant towards women is a good thing. I was about 13 years old when the problem of my uncle being really rude to my cousin occurred. It all started when I and my 12 year old cousin were talking about what we wanted to do when we grew up. I told her that I wanted to continue on studying in college and try and get a good career. Since then I always had an interest in fighting crime and lowering it. Till this day I still have the same interest in studying criminal justice. My cousin, she wanted to do the same on continuing to study and finish college. She wanted to work for the Mexican government and try to make changes. While she was telling me her goals my uncle over heard and interrupted her rudely. He told her that it was a dumb idea to think that a woman would be able to make...