NLP AS AN APPLIED PSYCHOLOGY
COURSE TUTOR: HAZEL BAINBRIDGE
REFELCTIVE ESSAY : META MIRRORS
WRITTEN BY : CAROL PARRY, APRIL 2009
During this reflective essay I will aim to reflect upon my experience of guiding a fellow student through an exercise using the ‘Meta Mirror’ technique and to discuss and explore my learning from the experience, and applying NLP principles within this context.
The exercise was undertaken in groups of 3 for which I assumed the role of Practitioner, Wil was the client and our Observer, Bharti. The exercise started with Bharti finding a suitable position from which she could clearly observe the dialogue and interaction between Wil and I, without being obtrusive and beyond our immediate line of vision. I firstly invited Wil to recall a communication or situation with another individual which “could have gone better” ie, it was not a very emotional experience or one of his worst memories but one in which he was interested enough in his relationship with this person that he wanted to explore this particular communication further.
To start the process I invited Wil to find the space from which he would take ‘First Position’. The terms ‘first’, ‘second’ and ‘third’ positions have been developed by John Grinder and Judith De Lozier in recent works and are fundamental to understanding the ‘Meta Mirror’ technique. They defined each position in the following way: First position is from your own point of view, in a completely associated way and without considering anyone else’s perspective. Second position is when you consider how a situation looks, feels and sounds from another person’s point of view. Third position is seeing the world from an outside point of view. This is the experience of looking at the situation as a totally independent observer. This is defined as being different form being disassociated, as the person must be observing the situation from a strong and resourceful state....