Meddling

I am still trying to get over the saga that surrounds a relatively good friendship that turned bizarre these past two years. It is very difficult especially without an explanation. You just end up wondering what you ever did to the person that no longer wants contact. My advice to anyone that wants to end a friendship-- please sit down and talk to the person about why you are doing what you are doing. Just cutting them out of your life with no explanation is a horrible way to deal with former friends. If you believe them to be a detractor in your life, that is alright. It is fine to make decisions about the people that you need in your life in order to be happy and healthy. However, it is always a good idea to give this person you are angry with and/or believe has wronged you a chance to explain themselves, and the possibility to save a friendship. I believe that almost any rational person would appreciate an explanation and opporunity to realize what they did wrong, and understand that they need to chance. Silence is never the best medicine for friendship and it only ends up hurting your former friend more. There are some relationships that must end, however, everyone deserves a second chance. Don't you think so?
Therefore she loses her status as neutral, loving and supporting. She obviously has her own agenda and that is to cause you and your relationship as much difficulty as possible.

Personally speaking, when I have found out that someone has betrayed me, I severe the ties altogether, no ifs, ands, or buts. I don't dwell on the whys and why-nots nor if these people need therapy, or if they have a deep seated problem. I simply do not have the time or room in life for losers like this. It does not matter if they are family, {God-Forbid}, friends, or the infamous co-workers. All it takes is one time; then it is over forever. To understand my rationale, you must all understand where I'm coming from; I am an in-your-face-type of person, who is not afraid to... [continues]

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