Sugar and Spice… No Longer Everything Nice
1. ATTENTION GETTER: Can girls be mean? Has everyone experienced betrayal
by the hands of a female? Do we even need to answer these rhetorical questions?
a. Girls are mean. I really hate saying that, but everyone knows it is true and
the more we pretend that girls are not mean, the more trouble we bring on
2. Again, girls are mean that is all there is to it. They are not sweet little quiet
things that never cause a problem in school, like those troubling boys who start brawls in the hallways
3. The typical mantra is that boys are more aggressive than girls are, but in the last
decade or so, we have learned that girls can be just as aggressive, just in a different way.
a. They are mean in a way that slips through the cracks, under people’s
noses. They are mean in a way that teachers do not notice or turn a blind
eye to. This is not something new; it has been happening for decades.
4.PREVIEW: Today I will inform you of how girls are not all “sugar and spice,” and
never have been, but are also not inherently mean or evil.
TRANSITION: Now let us start with how and what age meanness starts.
1.MAIN POINT: Meanness can start in girls as young as three or four years old. These toddlers will use manipulation and peer pressure on their parents to get what they want.In preschool, children do it daily. They will exclude others and threaten to withdraw their friendship, when they do not get their way. It may be leaving someone out, to telling friends not to play with someone, to saying, “I’m not going to invite you to my birthday party!” if you talk to her.
2.According to Nelson, “Preschoolers appear to be more sophisticated in their
knowledge of social behaviors than credit is typically given to them.”...