I think far too much thought, planning and money go into choosing everything for the wedding and not enough consideration goes into planning the marriage itself. Two people need to think things through, talk about every subject under the sky, and then get married. Spending so much money that you both go into debt before you even get married isn't necessary. Once you take your vows and take each other 'for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,' that should be for all eternity. I'm not saying that there's never a reason for divorce, but people walk into and out of marriage with much less seriousness than marriage warrants. If you do not love each other and do not want to spend the rest of your lives together, cancel the wedding plans now before it's too late.
Other people should look out for people wearing wedding bands and respect their marriages. It's just not possible that people just happen to fall in love with people in work or church who are married. They must be leaving themselves open to longing gazes and long touches of hands. These should be reserved for your spouse alone. There would be far fewer divorces if everyone would just respect other people's unions. I was in a situation once where I caught a married man cheating and the single female's response was that if his wife took care of him that he would have never come looking for her. That is a bunch of ignorance, is this really how we look out for our fellow man and show such disrespect and blame it all on the woman in this case? No, I believe the only one not at fault is the woman. No matter what supposing excuse this man has come up with to make him feel better and justify a reason to cheat is not acceptable in my opinion and the disgusting knowing accomplice is ridiculous. What ever happened to the golden rule of treating others as you want to be treated (Th.M.) I can only assume that she would never want to have her husband cheat on her when the time comes. People who will act on their married situation with those convictions luring them off course from their union have married each other as an activity of partnership, not a union of one mind and heart.
To marry one another a woman and man need to have respect for each other. They each must have their own defined identity and prove that when they are together, they matter to each other. People who nit-pick at each other just because it's convenient must eventually find more fault with each other than gratefulness. If one spouse accuses the other of being fake or dishonest in his or her dealings with the other spouse, then they will attend to regaining their own identity and lose face within their relationship. Over time this loss of faithful regard begins to affect their relationship self-confidence and disrupts the energy that brought them together. Their faithful union dissolves since the bonds which built it become damaged. People have to talk things out while they see that the relationship is worth correcting, not after the damage is irreversibly done.
In an attempt to connect and have a relationship, we forget to find out what the other person is really like and seem to just settle until something better comes along. People seem to be out for themselves and hardly ever pay attention to their partners needs over their own. People seem to recognize that there is...