Marriage in Pakistan

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Marriage in Pakistan
Pakistan is a place of thousands of cultured faces, when there is a wedding its full of its traditions and influenced by foreign customs. When you know there is Pakistani wedding be ready to participate with passion and enthusiasm. There are several steps among Muslim wedding, and they include mangni , mayoo, mehndi, nikah, and valima.

Mangni is a formal ceremony to mark the couple of the engagement. This event usually takes place at home and not a lot of people are invited, the couple is usually surrounded by their parents and close relative. It’s also a way for the groom to ask permission from the bride’s parents for her hand in marriage. So at that time rings are exchanged but the groom does not put the ring on his soon to be wife, instead the grooms mother or sister places the ring on the brides figure. Since Pakistan is also becoming so modest you will most likely see the groom and bride exchanging rings them self.

Mayoo happens mostly in the house of the bride. Family and friends all gather and dance and sing to drum music, the bride is showered in gifts depending on what the family can afford. So as the day turns to night the bride’s hands and feet are decorated in henna. The bride usually wears a yellow color and wears traditional clothes called salwar qameez. Also the bride will be covered in ubtan which a paste is made of turmic also known as sandalwood powder and oil. This helps by bringing a glow to the bridal skin. Mayoo has reduced over the years because if a girl is under mayoo it means she has to be isolated for about 8 days before marriage. This means that she can’t go out of her house to meet anyone, but in modern era women are working now which makes it hard for them to be under a manyoo.

The dholki party which is named after south Asian word dholak meaning drums .Dholki is another ceremony that happens after the manyoo. The dholki is an event full of fun and stress free for the bridal, friends and family gather and sing and dance all night long. The songs are usually sung from both bride and groom side aiming each other with naughty lyrics bad mouthing each other in a funny manner. In this event the groom and the bride are together so they have a chance to catch up on things and talk about how everything is going. The dholki takes place three days before the actual marriage. This event is just a little excuse for everyone to have fun from all the stress of planning the wedding. The bride is dressed in green or whatever color she decides to wear usually its bright color. Since the event can last long during the night the bride’s parents have to prepare for long traveler guest to stay over.

Henna ceremony takes place two days before the wedding. These are two different function the grooms event is called ( tael) meaning oil, this is where the brides guest put oil on the grooms head and henna is applied on hands of the bride and the groom has some amount of money in his hand and henna is applied on top of that. These days to save time the function is held only one day, the bride wears green or orange/yellow and either wear little to no makeup. The bride and groom enters together under a (dupatta= shawl) held by close relatives. A competition also occurs between groom and bride side, both sides sing teasing songs the bride side teases the groom and his sisters it’s just plan clean fun. It is said that heena ceremony was only for a bride and the groom could not participate at all. Nikkah is performed for the Muslim couples this is the official ceremony where the couples tie knots. This event is help at home or desired place and the couple is surrounded by close family and friends. Usually the bride and groom are placed in separate rooms or they have a curtain in between each other separating them from seeing each other. At that time both the groom and the bride sign the nikkah naama (marriage contract) which is registered at that time. The contract has all the terms and...
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