Lovers, friends or exes?
Have you ever asked yourself if you can ever be friends with your ex? Or lover with a friend of yours from the opposite sex? If you still have not, then now is the time to contemplate over these two questions, essential for the so-called “modern” society that we live in. The answer to the former question that resonates the loudest at least in my mind is no and I have several reasons to support my statement. Even if a relationship was completely problem-ridden, chances are that the passion and sexual chemistry between the two of you still exists. This is a recipe for disaster because it means every time you get together under this new “friendship” premise, the lust and passion you have makes it more likely that you’ll end up in “one more” night of unbridled “goodbye” sex, for old times’ sake. This brings you right back to step one – how you felt right after your breakup, and just when you were doing so well. What is more, since breakups are rarely one-sided, one party will always feel resentment or bitterness towards the other. Even if your ex is feigning friendship, she is not sincerely your friend. And when there is bitterness, there is jealousy. The truth of the matter is that it is hard to be sincerely happy for your ex when she has just found the new love of her life. As for the status of being lovers and friends, I believe this is quite an achievable task, simply because I, myself, am going through such a relationship. Most people would ask “how is that possible", to remain just “friends” with a person you have reached the ultimate level of intimacy? It is definitely a hard task to ignore the image of that person naked, the memories of the trysts triggered by the smell of her skin or perfume, but with time you learn how to remain cold-blooded and put aside all the lust when you see that person’s eyes. However, this state of mind can be accomplished with the mutual reminding that you have all the freedom in the world, you...
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