After a loss in a family, it’s hard for the loved ones to cope. It seems surreal to them that someone so close to them was gone, never to be seen again. In “The Lovely Bones” by Alice Sebold, the main character, Susie Salmon is raped then murdered. Each of her family members is traumatized by her horrific death and goes through stages of recovery in their own way. Susie, who has gone to “her heaven”, is coping with her own death as well. The poem, “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep” by Mary Frye is an example of what she is going through. She seems to be always with her family, looking down from the gazebo in her heaven. The death of a loved one can make a huge impact on a family, unveiling other problems, taking time to recover from these problems, and accepting a loss in their family.
In the poem, the narrator is a deceased person and she’s telling her loved ones not to mourn for her, “Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there, I do not sleep,” and that she’s everywhere around them: “When you wake up in the mornings hush; I am the swift, uplifting rush...” Susie accepted that she couldn’t live again and she wanted her family to accept it as well, “I could not have what I wanted most: Mr. Harvey dead and me living. Heaven wasn’t perfect. But I came to believe that if I watched closely, and desired, I might change the lives of those I loved on Earth.” Like the poem, Susie’s father, Jack Salmon can sense her daughter’s presence when he talks to his neighbor and her murderer, George Harvey about the mat tent that Mr.Harvey was building. Mr. Salmon says to Susie, “I can hear you, honey…What is it?”(56) The narrator of the poem expresses that she’s in fact always around her loved ones by using personification, “I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glint on snow, I am the sunlight on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain.” Susie was
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