Often times, people confuse love and infatuation. Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning desire. Love is a decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. It is important that we understand the difference between the two. Confusing these strong emotions can lead one down a road of hard times and heartache.
When stirring the pot of love, there are certain ingredients that are required from both partners. The main ingredients are intimacy, commitment, and security. Intimacy has more to it than the physical side. It’s also spending quality one on one time together in an atmosphere where two people are comfortable with one another. Commitment is when two people make a decision to commit themselves to one another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. It also means that relationship partners trust each other and believe that their partner won’t hurt them physically or emotionally. Security is when partners feel safe with one another and know that their partner has their back as much as they have theirs.
Infatuation on the other hand can be a bit tricky. This emotion gives the façade that it could in fact be love, but it’s not. Instead of being genuine, infatuation has misconstrued components of love; intimacy, commitment, and security. Intimacy when it comes to infatuation deals strictly with the physical body. Generally, when partners are alone they spend most of their time participating in sexual acts and rarely spend time just being in each other’s company. The only commitment involved is the commitment to fulfilling ones physical desires. Infatuation based partners feel the need to continuously engage in sexual activity to maintain the relationship. Lastly, in infatuation based relationships, there is virtually no security. Once the physical attraction has faded in the relationship, there is nothing left to hold it together.
Though the difference...