Love styles
The three primary love styles in Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) are Eros (romantic, passionate love), Ludus (game-playing love), Storge (friendship love), and three main secondary styles: Mania (possessive, dependent love), Pragma (logical, “shopping list” love), and Agape (all-giving, selfless love). Altogether, these love styles are all equally valid ways of loving.
In order to determine your love style, you can complete a brief quiz. Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) developed a self-report questionnaire measure of love styles. Respondents indicate their level of agreement or disagreement with the statements, examples of which include "My partner and I have the right physical 'chemistry'" (Eros) and "Our love is the best kind because it grew out of a long friendship" (Storge). There are from 3–7 items for each of the six styles described above. After I completed the love styles questionnaire, I was surprised with my final results. My mean for each individual love style test was 1.4 for Pragma, 2.5 (Eros), 3 (Ludus), 3.28 (Storge), 4.57 (Mania), and 4.71 (Agape).
The lowest mean signifies the love style that is most characteristic of myself. My lowest mean was Pragma. Pragmatic love emphasizes trust and tolerance and develops with greater deliberation and self-control than do other types of love. Pragma is rational. I would agree that I am rational because I like to think about relationships in terms of benefits and setbacks and how they will affect my future before I fully get involved. Pragmatic love focuses on desired attributes of the lover. In fact, “love planning” might be an apt description.
Levine, T. R., Aune, K., & Park, H. (2006). Love styles and communication in relationships: Partner preferences, initiation, and intensification. Communication Quarterly, 54(4), 465-486.
In the “Love Styles and Communication in Relationships” article, Levine, Aune and Park investigate the role of love styles in the early stages of romantic relationships.
In order to determine your love style, you can complete a brief quiz. Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) developed a self-report questionnaire measure of love styles. Respondents indicate their level of agreement or disagreement with the statements, examples of which include "My partner and I have the right physical 'chemistry'" (Eros) and "Our love is the best kind because it grew out of a long friendship" (Storge). There are from 3–7 items for each of the six styles described above. After I completed the love styles questionnaire, I was surprised with my final results. My mean for each individual love style test was 1.4 for Pragma, 2.5 (Eros), 3 (Ludus), 3.28 (Storge), 4.57 (Mania), and 4.71 (Agape).
The lowest mean signifies the love style that is most characteristic of myself. My lowest mean was Pragma. Pragmatic love emphasizes trust and tolerance and develops with greater deliberation and self-control than do other types of love. Pragma is rational. I would agree that I am rational because I like to think about relationships in terms of benefits and setbacks and how they will affect my future before I fully get involved. Pragmatic love focuses on desired attributes of the lover. In fact, “love planning” might be an apt description.
Levine, T. R., Aune, K., & Park, H. (2006). Love styles and communication in relationships: Partner preferences, initiation, and intensification. Communication Quarterly, 54(4), 465-486.
In the “Love Styles and Communication in Relationships” article, Levine, Aune and Park investigate the role of love styles in the early stages of romantic relationships.