A reaction on “Love above Feelings” by Jim Paredes
I have reached a milestone in my life and for me, experiencing love is such one. Year 2010 has closed its doors and another has opened a whole new chapter to my life. Aside from another year which brings me nearer to marriage (just wishing so…), I am on a hung-over which tilted my mind if there is really a true love. When my relationships before are getting near to break up, I really felt as if a lure that I can’t take myself out from. But things aren’t forever as they say. As I run through the previous chapters of my life, I came up with something: that there are lots of people who care for me, who came shared their time to me, and who love me which I appreciated so much. The so called “inspiration” thingy somehow had helped me in carrying out something in me. In his book “I Never Had a Choice,” Gerald Corey described the meaning of authentic love as follows: 1. Love means that I know the person I love; 2. Love means that I care about the welfare of the person; 3. Love means having respect for the dignity of the person I love; 4. Love means having a responsibility towards the person; 5. Love means growth for both myself and the person I love; 6. Love means making a commitment to the person; 7. Love means sharing an experience with the person; 8. Love means trusting the person; 9. Love means that I’m vulnerable; 10. Love is freeing; 11. Love is expansive; 12. Love means identifying the person I love; and 13. Love is giving. Based on Corey’s definition of love, I found things that made him realize that love is not perfect, as to have telling himself he never had a choice either to decide by good feelings, or just feelings alone. That which he defined was the imponderable and sublime “authentic love” which for us humans with flats, failures, and spares would be impossible to feel. Well it’s really why we’re born and why we’re living. Imagine the world without love... But then, for thousands of reasons, we tend...
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