What is Love? Many people have a hard time finding words to express this feeling because everyone’s experience and meaning of it is different. For some people love is a complete devotion and endless adoration, for others is a temporary feeling that will disappear in time. I have found that the more I try to find the definition of love, the more confused I get. I grew up in a home where my mother was a Christian and my father was not. The result of that imbalance was me rarely thinking about God or how he loved me because I never went to church. As I grew up, my idea of love was formed by the movies and magazines I saw. Having that vision of love in my mind made it very hard for me to grow in my faith after I committed my life to Christ at sixteen. Luckily, God revealed to me the reason that I never understood love was because I was trying to fit in a mold that wasn’t made for me. I had to experience love to see what it was.
In The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis, he investigates four types of love; affection, friendship, romantic and agape. Friendship, affection and romantic love are all categorized as being “humanistic” and agape is referred to as “God’s love”. I feel that his ideas of love are parallel to my own personal feelings on this matter. His method of dividing these different aspects of love and confronting them one by one is brilliant. In writing this book he sheds light on the truth that being in love is different from lust and friendship love is different from family love. There isn’t really anything that I disagree with to the point of having a separate opinion backed up with facts.
Barbara Fredrickson’s take on love seems to be more scientific and logical than Lewis. Throughout her article she writes about how love is simply a micro-moment of connection between two people. Although she does not separate the idea of love into different categories, she does say that there can be different “connections” of love. Her focus in this article is more...
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