Ever wonder why so many happy marriages become failed marriages? Love plays a big part of failed and happy marriages. Happy marriages are hard to obtain and keep in this day of age. Marriage is defined as “an intimate or close union” by Merriam Webster. Marriage has been used for mutual benefit, personal benefit, or just the simple uniting of a couple in love. Happy marriages seem to be rare now with the stress of jobs, life’s struggles, or just the simple temptations that can tear a marriage apart and even the lack of love.
In history marriage wasn’t the uniting of a couple in love, it was for the benefit of kingdoms or families. Marriage was used to unite families for mutual benefit to gain a higher standing in a kingdom. Love was known to add difficult challenges to a marriage. Shakespeare depicted the challenges that love can add to a marriage. He showed how two young adults from feuding families could set aside their differences and find the true meaning of love between them. It went against what marriage was in that time period and joined two people in marriage for love. Even though the families hated each other and despised the marriage, they found ways to work around their family’s problems.
Marriage isn’t an easy journey. Marriage is a union between a man and a woman for life, so it is a career. Whether it’s a journey or a bad one it is a choice for life. Happy marriages are rare because of the difficulty to change or understand another person. Buzzle.com’s love poem shows what love means to some people “I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”
Love is a big part in a marriage. Love can make marriage very hard or very easy. Love can make a marriage easier by giving the couple a reason and a want to work out problems or issues. But it can also strain a relationship by fear of hurting a loved one. By avoiding a problem in fear of hurting a loved one can only make a problem worse and can escalade a simple issue into something shattering. Love gives reasons for a couple to work things out. It creates an unbreakable bond between two people. When love is at its peak it is unstoppable and is stronger than any man-made substance. Love can make a couple see the other side and change ways and beliefs to make things better. It can re-strengthen a relationship back to its original state.
Strained marriages can be healed by love. Love can give a couple a reason to work. Love can bring out the compassion and devotion it’s meant to have in a relationship. Life can try to tear marriages apart with jobs or money struggles while trying to succeed in a career can be very time consuming and demanding for not only one person but also for the couple. Careers help make a couple stay together and add a challenge to the daily married life. On top of having a career, working around money becomes a major issue with couples. Money can add stress in ways that only those who have had money troubles could understand. Money can drive a couple apart by limiting the amount of excess a couple could have. It can take away the nice cars and the yearly vacations or even the cushion in the bank account. Some couples need yearly vacations to get away from daily struggles.
Daily struggles can tear love from any marriage. Living with another person can be very stressful especially if little things about a person drive the other crazy. Little habits a person may have that they don’t notice could drive a marriage apart if it’s not resolved. Resolving problems such as little habits or major problems is another reason love can hurt a marriage....