Leanna M. Benny
July 25th, 2011
Love is said to be the greatest human experience in which mankind are privilege to partake in. To love can be a wondrous experience filling life with bliss and other strong emotions. Some people believe to love is to be alive and be able to see the good in the world and others. The purpose of this paper is to examine and find a better understanding of what is love, to explore what people believe love to be, and what lies surround the perception of love and to explore and expose what the meaning true love is or at the very least the authors understanding of the perception of love. In addition to exploring the concept, deception and the truth of love, one man’s perspective of what love is will be examined and aid in a better understand of what true love is.
Love does not have to exist with marriage but can coexist with marriage as long as the love is not deprived by the marriage. During the research process, the word unconditionally has a recurring theme through all the writing on what is love. Some believe that any love that is with conditions is not actually love. To love someone is to love that person for the person they are today and tomorrow despite flaws and mistakes that may occur, according to The Meaning of Love’s article on What is the true meaning of Love?. Love is not about the possession of another person, nor is it rooted in jealousy. To love unconditionally is to love a person with the absence of jealous and to love freely and allow each other to share love freely. An example of this concept is a person who loves unconditionally allows his or her lover to love unconditionally, even if this meant loving another outside the couple hood. Unconditionally love cannot be contained in a box of a conventional marriage. Unconditional love is infinite and is not rooted in physical attributes as relations or the desire to procreate but exist on a spiritual level of understanding (The Meaning of Love, 2011).
Another source that provides some similarity to this concept of what is Love is that of the Jewish religion. Gila Manolson explains within her article that Love is the attachment that results from a deep appreciation of another’s goodness. It is the ability to look passes the flaws and embraces the goodness within another person (Manolson, 2011). It describe love as active, and that it can be created by looking into another person and seeing what makes him or her who he or she are and places value on the goodness in that person. This type of love is unconditional and rooted in a spiritual profound source of love. By focusing on the goodness in others, you can almost love anyone. The Article continues to express that the best way to love is to be a loving person who gives, not material objects, but to give of a person self to another in happiness and understanding. In the belief that true love requires true giving, giving is explained by being other-oriented that employs the use of four elements:
Caring: Demonstrating an active concern for another well-being and growth Responsibility: Responding to the needs of others
Respect: The ability to see another as they are and appreciate that person for his or her individuality Knowledge: Understanding of another personality
The Different Types of Love
During the research of this subject, I was fortunate enough to find an article written Alex C of Seeker of Truth. In his article, he describes what he calls the three different types of love. Love between a child and mother is not the same of love experienced by lovers. According to the author of this article, the three types of love are called Eros, Philos, and Agape (Alex C., 2005).
Eros love is also known as erotic love. This type of love is based on strong overwhelming feelings toward another person. This type of love usually occurs in the early stages of a...