Long Distance Relationships

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Does Long-Distance Relationship ever Works?
A relationship is said to be a connection, as in thought, concerning or regarding something or someone. Therefore a long-distance relationship (LDR) is similar to a normal relationship but differs in terms of geographic location of the couple; such location can range from 100-1000 miles, 100-3000 mile apart etc. Any dating or intimate relationship with so much distance between both parties is no doubt challenging, but that one of the things that comes along with LDRs relationships. Obviously each challenge has either a positive or a negative result. Positives such as increased independence, personal growth, more free time, and increased communication; while some negatives are lack of physical intimacy, expenses, and physical proximity. In a LDR, all the skills must be utilized in order for that kind of relationship to survive. To answer the question above we must first analyze some studies of LDRs, positives & negatives of LDRs, and required skills for LDRs.

LDRs are very diverse and have interested professors, psychologist, and scholars nationwide as a lot of studies and research has been conducted on LDRs both on college student and real life LDR couples. Such cases are a "study conducted at a large southern University; the questionnaires were given to 438 undergraduates of ages 17-48" (Knox 1). Respondents completed an anonymous survey about attitudes towards and previous experience with LDRs, of which 20 percent were currently involved in a LDR and 37 percent, reported having ever been in a LDR that ended. Being in a LDR is not easy, sustaining the relationship is even harder as was the case in this study, for "the separation was damaging to most relationships. One in five (21.5%) broke up and another one in five (20%) said that the separation made their relationship worse" (Knox 1); however, only 18 percent reported that the separation improved their relationship.

There were some significant findings in this particular research that shed light on some other things about LDRs. This does not have a distinct pattern in terms of sex, race, or age; as both sexes, people of different race and age are engaged in LDRs. Is ‘out of sight, out of mind,' this has a contrasting answer as some 42% of the persons who have been in a LDR disagreed with the saying, while 34% of the respondents who have never been in a LDR agrees. Also, persons who have been in a LDR that ended said that they would never go into a LDR again: contrastingly persons that are still in a LDR said they would do it again if it came to that point (Knox 2). This is evidence that people are judge LDRs base on the outcome rather that what it entails. Couples that are geographically separated encounter unique stressors and challenges seemingly unknown to geographically close couples. Thus activities that these couples enjoy such as face-to-face conversations, physical intimacy, sex… LDR couples cannot enjoy these activities everyday, thus things get a bit confusing which can end relationships. Since couples that face different geographic locations face different problems and communicate in different ways, only a person with experience in LDLR should give a valid input on such relationship.

The rate of growth among unmarried LDRs has gone mostly unmeasured, but we do know that the number of long-distance marriages in the U.S. increased by 385,000 between 1999 and 2002. The 2000 Census measured more than 4.1 million people living apart from their spouses for reasons other than separation (Caroline Tiger 1). Here are some more stats about LDRs in the U.S.:

Total number of people in long-distance relationships7 million couples # of long-distance marriages2.5 – 3 million couples
# of long-distance couples3 – 4.5 million couples
% of college students in an LDR at any given time25%
% of college students who've had an LDR at some point during their time in college 78% % military marriages that're...
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