Learning Review Week3

Learning review week 3 1. Core Conditions 2. Carl Rogers
This week I had not been in because my son was started nursery for the first time and started at 12 and I had to be in college for nine so it was impossible to cum in, but I was able to get one of my classmates to collect my work so I wouldn’t be behind. I was told we were discussing Carl Rogers and he’s theories, Carl rogers was bought up in a Christianity home were him & his family never expressed their feelings so he was a very quiet child and knew being otherwise would bring judgement to his family. In 1924 rogers attended a theological seminary and from there went on to study psychology at Columbia university, in 1928 rogers received his ma and then began working with children and their families and while doing this he developed his own theory of self-awareness that once a counsellor has connected with in themselves then they will have a better understanding of your client. Rogers also introduced the study of the three core conditions
1.Congruent : This means to be real being totally in touch with your feelings not acting like an expert but being yourself so you can connect more with your clients without a front.
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2.Empathy: Being able to listen and take in what your client has said and understand the feelings they are feeling, being able to put one foot into their world because maybe u have been in a similar situation.
3: Unconditional positive regards: This means to be non-judgemental, warmth acceptance on whatever is being said weather it’s the present or past, also to understand everyone is as important and as equal as each other.
Out of these three conditions the one I see the least is Unconditional positive regards. I get judged a lot because of the fact that I have four children, people that don’t know me or see me on the street with my children assume I don’t have ambition, want to live off benefits, must be struggling to raise them and must have four different baby fathers even though when they see me my kids they are well dressed and clean and very well-mannered but still assume the worst. This upsets most times because without asking people assume the worst and if they spoke to knew me they would know that I’m very ambitious & at the moment studying counselling but when I tell people that they seem very surprised and it shocks me that people seem to think once you have kids you dreams slow down when they only slow down if u want them to. I think this condition is very important not even in the counselling work placement but in everyday life because when your being judged you start acting off of what people are saying an expected of you. I also believe most people deserve a second chance depending on what they’ve done, I’ve always said that the only people I wouldn’t counsel would be paedophiles only because I have children and don’t know if I could s manage finding out the reason behind why they have what they have done, I see that as me being congruence because I’m in touch with my feelings enough to know I couldn’t counsel them because I wouldn’t be able to understand without being judgemental so instead of me seeing them and putting up a front I rather just set my limits from the beginning. We have also been looking up on block listening which is when someone is speaking to you and you block out what they are saying by thinking about past experiences or what going on in your life. There are different types of block listening for example
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Rehearsing: looking interested but thinking of something of a response to their words, I do this a lot not because I’m not interested because I want to say the right thing and seem helpful but then sometimes there’s not an answer for everything and they might have just have wanted me to listen without a reply, or they might think I’m telling them what to do and get offended
Dreaming: Someone explaining a situation what they are going through that triggers off a situation similar that happened in your life, this is another thing I do which I feel is a bad because I then take away the importance of what the person was saying and made the conversation about me.
Advising: Something that we all do without meaning to someone tells us a situation and we straight away think of a way to accept it and in a counselling work placement that is something you cannot do because if your client takes on your advice and it goes wrong there going to blame you for it you could also lose your job.
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We did another counselling practice session which we will be doing every week to make sure we are using the skills correctly. I don’t feel very confident when it comes to doing this skills practice I feel very anxious and find myself thinking of what to say before I’ve even been given the situation. You start the session by stating the contract, “Hello my name is Antoinette burton I will be your helper for today, and I just want to let you know that everything that you say today is confidential but I will have to break that confidentiality if I feel there’s acts of self-harming, harming others, drug trafficking or acts of terrorism, I also have a supervisor I will be referring to just to make sure I am working in my limits and working safe of your needs and if I feel I’m working over my limits there options of referral but I will tell you more about that if I feel it’s necessary you session will be fifth teen minutes what would you like to talk about. I think I’m confident when it comes to saying the contract but once the person starts talking I get a little worried I think I need to relax more and stop thinking about what to say and let it roll naturally. Other all I think I’m doing very well on this course and can’t wait to practice these skills.