Ldr Research Paper

To be in a long distant relationship is no easy task. Many couples face a tough decision when it comes time to leave for college. Stay together or end the relationship as it is? My boyfriend and I did not even second-guess our choice to remain together; however, since we left for school our relationship has become significantly more difficult. We made the decision to stay together without knowing what was going to happen or where we might end up. As scary as that seemed, we still took the risk because the distance did not seem like something to end a relationship over. Throughout the past three months away at school, we have come to find that being apart causes more stress in our relationship simply because emotions have peaked and it becomes difficult to control them. The more important thing that we discovered through this separation is that the distance has made us stronger as individuals as well as a couple, and the time we were able to spend together became much more cherished. Long distant relationships are unsurprisingly challenging and emotionally straining but are certainly worth the time and effort. A long distance relationship provides an experience allowing one to grow as an individual, strengthen the bond between the couple, and teach important relationship skills to the ones involved.
To grow as an individual is a tough thing in the conformity of the world today, but oddly enough being in a long distance relationship can actually help with that growth. By developing individual lives, both members of the relationship are able to be their own person allowing self-growth (5). This newfound self-growth gives the members a chance to reach personal goals, ambitions and desires without having to worry that it will take time out of the growth of the relationship itself (5). Many people have a difficult time when it comes to juggling a boyfriend/girlfriend with everything else that is going on in their day-to-day life. The separation gives the couple a

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