Chef Tiffany Henderson
July 14, 2011
Topic: Personal Leadership - Knowing yourself so you may begin exploring your own true potential. There are several questions that must be discussed first to gain access the knowledge of oneself. The first question is “what is a personal strength?”A personal strength is having self-confidence. It is the ability to communicate with yourself in a positive manner. It is having a vision of who you want to be, how you want to live, how you want to fulfill your vision and then by having the faith to do so, you can achieve success. Personal strength is also about having independence and not depending on anyone else to tell you how to think or feel. It is the ability to make moral decisions that are best for you and then act on them. Lastly, it is about having the ability to laugh at yourself because laughter transforms pain. “Making the best of ourselves is not an easy task. It is a pleasurable pursuit, it is the reason we were born, but it requires patience, persistence, and perseverance. For many of us it also requires prayer. That is because we find it far easier to learn to live by our own lights when we access a Higher Source of Power to illuminate our path.”(Sarah Ban Breathnach) A key aspect of confident people is that they have high self-esteem - they hold themselves in positive self-regard. This means that they know how to love themselves and that they acknowledge what they're good at. These realizations boost their resilience and ability to take on greater challenges. Your ability to take appropriate, effective action is affected by various things in your life that may seem to have little direct relation to the task at hand. Your values are a good example of this. Your self-confidence is likely to waver if you don't value what you excel at doing. Research shows that if you value what you're good at, you're likely to be highly confident in that area. If you value what you're not so good at, then you will not feel so confident, even though your friends may reassure you that this is not much of a problem at all.Building confidence begins with going with your strengths. If you're great at music, don't beat yourself up because you're not going to play international rugby. Pat yourself on the back, practice accepting compliments for everything you do well, and enjoy the positive reinforcement from others. Respect and honor yourself, and you'll find that you get respect and honor from those around you. For confidence to thrive and grow, you must concentrate your attention on what you're good at, rather than trying to turn yourself into something that you're not. The next question is to ask oneself is “why are personal strengths important to recognize?” If you do not recognize your strengths you will not know your weaknesses. The key to unlock you’re ability to understand and recognize your personal strength’s lies in the understanding of “self”. Let us take Sigmund Freud and his ID, EGO and Superego theory into account. The Id, ego and super-ego are the three parts of the psychic scheme defined in Sigmund Freud's structural model of the psyche; they are the three theoretical constructs [a construct is a concept, model, or schematic idea] in terms of whose activity and interaction mental life is described. The meaning or explanation of these three psychic schemes starts with the id. The id and its functions lie in the irrational and emotional part of the mind. To give a further explanation of what this means take a baby from birth for instance. At birth a baby’s mind is all Id they possess the want, want, want, mentality. The Id is the primitive mind. It contains all the basic needs and feelings. It is the source for libido. And it has only one rule the pleasure principle: I want it and I want it all now. If I were to use a transference definition I would simple state that the Id best equates to mean child or selfishness. If you are more of an Id person...