It Is Found That a Tom-Boyish Lesbian Seldom Date with Another Tom-Boyish Lesbian. Please Give Possible Explanations to the Phenomenon.

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4) It is found that a Tom-boyish lesbian seldom date with another Tom-boyish lesbian. Please give possible explanations to the phenomenon. Tomboy refers to girls who act like boys in gestures, clothing, and so on (Hall, 2008). It is just a gender role, but not a sex. Also, tomboys may not be lesbians as tomboys are just wearing like boys and interested in masculine and physical activities (Hall, 2008). In my daily observations, tomboys always date with some pretty girls, but seldom date with tomboys. In the following will explain this phenomenon. Everyone should have their superego, which is judge or censor for the thoughts of ego (Coon & Mitterer, 2010). The superego of tomboys may come from their father. In tomboys’ childhoods, their father may teach them how to behave. They may learn from it and discover that fathers’ behave like this can make others follow her. In addition, girls have penis envy, so girls may tends to admire the power that fathers have and through pretend like a boy to offset the penis envy. Through imagining having a penis, tomboys think that they own power, so they can control others. It is because when they have penis envy, that means they do not have power. But in the reality, girls cannot have penis. So, some girls will choose to be a tomboy to act as a boy and therefore have “penis” to control others since controlled by others is like an eye is looking behind you (i.e. someone is monitoring and controlling you). To become a tomboy, they may want to overcome the residues of childhood. It is because childhood can affect the development of gender and interpersonal relationship. Also, we cannot learn the concept of gender, but obtain the gender concept when we were small by experienced something. According to Freud’s stages of psychosexual development (Kipp & Shaffer, 2010), in phallic stage, children develop an incestuous desire for their opposite-sex parent. For girls, it is called Electra complex. This complex will trigger a conflict and...
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