ISLAMIC STUDIES ASSGIGNMENT
Hassan Munir 110468
Marriage in the light of QURAN and SUNAH
Table of Content:-
* Whom to Marry
In Islam it is clear that marriage is the optimum lifestyle.
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed Signs for people who reflect.” [30:21].” Yet, as more and more Muslims become a part of the ‘West’, the ‘West’ becomes part of the Ummah and leads us away from the strict interpretation of Islamic guidelines in regard to marriage. Making sure that Muslims are well-matched to their spouses is one of the most important and potentially difficult functions in Muslim society. The individual seeking marriage must have his/her priorities straight and be clear on what characteristics are most important to be sought in a spouse in order to have a successful marriage. There are many characteristics that are important in a husband or a wife but some are much more important than others. Overemphasizing the wrong qualities can lead to disaster down the road just as being neglectful of certain considerations can do likewise. When we come to understand the goals and priorities of marriage in Islam, we may be guided to the Islamic methodology of seeking marriage in Islam and stop blindly following the disbelievers in their ignorant notions of the importance of “getting to know each other” and other such concepts which in reality contribute nothing to and more often sabotage a successful marriage. The Prophet (saw) taught us in many hadith about the various characteristics which one looks for in a spouse and their relative importance and which ones determine success insha Allah and Allah’s blessing on a marriage. Among those hadith: “A woman is married for her deen (Religion), her wealth or her beauty. You must go for the one with deen (Religion), may your hands be in the dust! (If you fail to heed)” [Muslim]” “Choose carefully for your seed. Marry those who are equivalent (or “qualified”) and give to them in marriage.” [Ibn Majah and others and it is sahih].”
There are some of the most important characteristics that can be found in the Qur’an and the Sunnah when it comes to choosing a good spouse.
We must be careful not to be superficial in this issue. The mere wearing of hijab or keeping a beard and praying in the masjid, while obvious requirements of piety, do not by themselves guarantee it. There are many people, who at first glance appear to be abiding by Islam, but upon closer inspection have a twisted understanding of Islam and their practice in reality may leave much to be desired. The characteristic of piety applies to the groom just as much as to the bride. The guardian of the woman should make this his first and top priority just as the man looking for a wife should make it his. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “If someone with whose piety and character you are satisfied with comes to you, marry to him. If you do not do so, there will be trials in the earth and a great deal of evil.” [At-Tirmidhi]”
Character and Behavior:-
Character is of extreme importance in Islam and goes hand in hand with faith and piety. The Prophet (PBUH) has even described it as the purpose of his mission to mankind as we can see from the following Quran verse & hadith: “Bad women are for bad men and bad men are for bad women. And good women are for good men and good men are for good women.”[An-Noor: 26]” Prophet (PBUH) said:-
“Righteousness is good character.” [Muslim]
“I have only been sent to complete good character.” [Al- Hakim and others sahih] “The believers with the most complete iman are those with the best character.” [Abu Daud and it is sahih]. “I...