CM206 Interpersonal Communications
Professor: Jessica Smith
Unit 03 Project
1. Describe a time when you tried to bring about a change in your self-concept and were not successful in doing so.
A time when I tried to bring about a change in my self-concept and was not successful in doing so is actually to be totally honest is something that I am still struggling with today. My ex-boyfriend broke up just a few months ago. To understand why this has such a big impact on me and my life you must first see the dynamics of our relationship and how close we were not only as a couple but as friends as well. Eric and I met in the 6th grade in our band class; he played the bongo drums and me the violin. We automatically connected with each other and he always looked past my disability and my limitations and said he saw me for the person I was and not as the girl in the wheelchair. As our friendship grew stronger we started dating. He was 12 and I was 11. I know a lot of people would just consider that to be puppy love because we were both so young and some people might argue we didn’t know what true love was. Although we in all reality did really truly love each other. He would wait with me until my mom showed up to take me home, or sometimes he’d drop me of at the office on the days he had to go work with his father after school. He owned his own appliance repair company and Eric regularly helped him on service calls. Due to my disability I was made fun of a lot at school. Eric did not take that well at all; he was always very protective of me and often even got suspended from school for fights with the people who made fun of me. He never let anyone get away with making fun of me or even looking at me the wrong way. His father however did not support his son dating a girl who was in a wheelchair and that couldn’t walk. Despite this we did all that we could to maintain our relationship. Sadly his dad eventually forced us to break up by cutting off any way to contact or seeing each other. We went about 6 years without any contact. One day after I logged in to my MySpace account I saw that I had a private message. At first glance I had no idea who it was, that was until I looked at some of the pictures on his profile I knew it was indeed Eric. After all those years we made plans to see each other and our friendship rekindled. Honestly from the moment I opened the door to see him standing on the other side my first thought was how he was really hot. We started hanging out a lot and had many late night phone calls. After a few more my months went by we began dating again until one of my close friends that I have known since childhood started to flirt and even hit on him. Nevertheless we continued a pattern of dating on and off. What stopped us from taking that next step when we were finally ready to enter into a committed relationship with each other I had moved out of the state to Michigan to get custody of my little brother. We had only intended on being there for six months and then home again but due to Shawn going into foster care twice and it took us 3 years to be able to legally adopt him and move back to Florida. A week after being home a week I woke up in horrible pain and three days later I started my first admission to the hospital. Not long after Eric left me. He was my first love and losing him has changed me in the way that in all of my future relationships it will be much harder for me to trust another person. On top of that having to live with this degree of pain for months on end has taught me never to take the little things in life for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff as they say. If you do you will be missing out on your life. You might not always be able to spend time with the ones you love and who love you. You don’t know what you got until it’s gone. I am only 22 and the pain I experience is so bad I can’t even get out of bed and even with all of the...