CHAPTER 1: A First Look at Interpersonal Communication
•Rhetoric: public speaking, preaching, law, philosophy
•Oral History: Story-telling, anthology (culture communication), performance test •Interpersonal: group family, organizational communication, perception, intimacy cognition, nonverbal, gender, conflict, relational development.
Communication Axioms (11 principles):
1.We communicate with others.
2.You cannot not communicate.
3.Can be intentional or unintentional.
4.Communication is irreversible (cannot take it back).
5.Communication is unrepeatable.
6.Meaning is not only in words (other elements such as tone of voice, face expression, etc.) (also in understanding them). 7.No single person or event causes another’s prediction (responses are complex). 8.More communication is not always better.
9.Communication will not solve all problems.
10.Communication is learned.
11.Communication is transactional.
Nature of Interpersonal Communication:
•Our connections to each other and how we communicate.
•Interactions fall somewhere along the spectrum of impersonal to personal. •Our course will examine personal communication as INTERPERSONAL. •Interpersonal is not better,
•Nor is it always the goal - desirable.
•Most relationships are not either interpersonal or impersonal, but are made up of multiple transactions of both types.
Characteristics of Interpersonal Communication:
1.Unique - no two are alike.
2.Irreplaceable - it will never be the same.
3.Interdependent - fate is shared.
4.Involves self-disclosure - *leads to intimacy *is incremental 5.Have intrinsic rewards. (it feels good to do it.)
6.Scarce - there’s only so much time in a day.
Communication Competence: the ability to accomplish your goals in a manner that maintains the relationship on terms that are acceptable (and healthy) to all parties involved. •There’s no ideal way to communicate.
•Competence is situational.
•Competence is relational.
Characteristics of Competent Communicators:
1)A wide variety of behaviors.
2)Ability to choose the most appropriate behavior.
3)Skill at performing behaviors (4 stages)
d)Integration (don’t think about it, it comes out naturally) 4)Cognitive Complexity - ability to construct a variety of different frameworks for viewing an issue. a)Use other perspective to change the way we see it.
5)Self-Monitoring - paying attention to your behavior and using these observations to shape the way you behave. a)Awareness of how much you are doing/talking
6)Is committed to the relationship.
CHAPTER 2: Communication and Identity: Creating and Presenting the Self
WHO ARE YOU?
-Moods & Feeling
Communication & Self- Concept
•Self-concept is a relatively stable set of self-perceptions. •Not all aspects equally important.
•Self-esteem & Self-worth (Positive/Negative)
Biological & Social Roots of Self
•Biology & the Self (Introvert vs. Extrovert)
•Traits of matter of degree
•Considerable Control over Communication
•Self-concept determines how you feel about the way you relate to others.
Socialization & Self-Concept
•‘‘I am who I think you think I am.’‘
•Messages from ‘‘significant others’‘ (carry more weight) •Social comparison
Characteristics of the Self-Concept
•Self-Concept is subjective
•Self-concept can be distorted (Anorexic/Bulimic) (inaccurate perception/image of us) -Obsolete information
-Distorted feedbacks (inaccurate/unfair feedbacks)
-Emphasis on perfection
•Self-Concept resists change
•Cognitive conservation (resist change in a way to change how we perceive ourselves. Holding on to perception of...