Family Life Center International said, Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman seeking for marriage or married life. Both are trying to win each other’s affection and love. Both must be emotional, spiritually and financially ready for marriage.
Courtship gives you the time to judge each other. It is the time for you to know more about person’s needs, backgrounds and likes or dislikes. Also this part of the relationship is most special time for women because they are being pursued by the men. Women also remembers this stage because men are its best in this period because they have an extra effort to win the women’s affection and love. This is the time where love is develop between the man and a woman. During the courtship partners can determine whether they are ready for commitment or not. Courtship is always exclusive and involves the family and friends of the woman. Crystal Huskey, eHow contributor, describes the advantages of courtship. First, A solid foundation. Second, best behaviour. Third, good use of time. Fourth, Emotional connections. And Fifth, physical connections. A solid foundation is the result of courtship to marriage. “the principles your courtship is built on will be the principles your marriage is built on. Marriage is not a magic wand that makes problems fade; in fact, what you allow to go on in your courtship will continue in your marriage, including habits and communication methods.” (Reverend Sylvester Onyemalechi, Senior Pastor of Jesus Family Fellowship) . Best Behaviour follows the “Golden Rule”. Good use of time it saves time for the couple to know whether they will or want to be committed in the relationship. In Emotional Connections, courtship has a clear intent of marrying the person whom you courting. Marriage is the end goal and ending up to be honest to each other and develop deep friendship in the relationship. Lastly in physical connections, chastity is important because it involves religious beliefs.
Courtship allows a person learn how to have respect and value for the person. It also allows persons to appreciate each other’s worth and may able to help each other’s confidence and personality. Because of too much involvement of emotions, physical and commitment, it can also result into a negative. Sometimes people jump into the physical aspect when they start courting which is the least important. This is the result of heavy media exposures that tend people to think that is the right decision, its right way, and it’s the right model or example of it.
Courtship is a public affair, done in public and with family approval. It includes activities such as watching movie, going on a date and being a lot with the person to know her more in every aspect and situation. There are two kinds of lengthy courtship described. One is short and the other one is long. But it doesn’t measure or assure of the success of one’s marriage. As many said “courtship is the basis for your enjoyment in the relationship”. It really depends on the couple’s demands and agreement. Although the short and long courtship has its own pros and cons.
It does not begin on the day when a man asks to pursue a woman, it begins in mind set and lifestyle before marrying. God is the center of the relationship hoping and praying for the better for each other and lead them to the right direction of their relationship. Although the end goal is marriage, partners should not hurry up to get married. They should first see if they are ready and capable to be married. Courtship also requires love, prayer, patience and oneness. Other importance sited are partners are different so in this time they can adjust to each other, it can establish communication to strengthen the relationship, they can understand each other’s goals and ambitions, it takes practical decisions than romantic ones, it is an opportunity to confirm what you want from the partner, gives an insight to...