Social media has had a major influence on society in the 21st century, enabling people to engage with each other in radically new and different ways. In less than a decade, it has transformed how we stay in touch with friends, shop, network and gather our news. Many of the almost 1 billion users of Facebook — and the millions who use Twitter, or blogs — cannot imagine communicating without these tools. Hence, there is a great impact of social media on relationships, among people.
How does social media contributes positively to these relationships? A lot of people use social media as a convenient way of keeping in constant touch with the people in their lives they don't call everyday. For instance, a college friend got engaged! A favorite cousin is moving across the country. A girl they met once at a party who's baring her midriff in her profile picture wrote on their fiancee's wall -- hold on, where'd she come from?
With online dating no longer considered banned and 65% of adults using social media sites in their daily lives, it was only a matter of time before Cupid hung up his wings and logged onto Facebook. “Social media has completely changed the approach to relationships, replacing roses and candles with tagged photos and flirty status comments. While Aristotle believed love was composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies, the romantics of 2012 would argue that real intimacy would be two souls inhabiting one conjoined Facebook account. “
“Social media is positive in the sense - it’s hard to imagine a time before the ring of the iPhone or the chime of the AIM message, couples survived for centuries on monthly letters, daily dinner chatter and long awaited visits. But since the rise of instant messaging, email, Facebook and Twitter, relationships are placed under unique stresses to keep a close eye on their partners’ media substance.”
“The case of Social Media vs. Romantic Relationships can be argued in either direction. In the United States, 5.5 million individuals are using online dating services and at least 1 out of 3 Americans know someone who has met their significant other online.” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/09/facebook-relationship-problems-social-networking_n_955980.html) For the long distance couples, social media has become a novel way to stay in touch with one another while hundreds of miles away. A Skype date with candles, Facetime while both drinking wine, just-thinking-of-you texts, and flirty emails keep the flame alive. For many, social media has allowed them to similarly connect with others who are ready to settle down and start a family, weeding out one’s incompatible relationships and leaving them with a list of likely soul mates.
Yet, the over-communication can be a double-edged sword. A relationship is not built in a Facebook message or a tweet or any such instant message. It is built through the time that you devote to one another. But as we over-connect, over-share, and over-commit, our relationships are no longer just between two people but available to and between the whole world. However, social networking sites aren’t a optimistic influence on the world. For example, finding a romantic partner via social media was roughly considered embarrassing. People would hide it like a dirty secret. For years people thought finding love online wasn’t actual or real. All that has changed now, since one out of eight marriages in the United States began online. In contrast to this, more and more people breaking up via their Facebook status.
For instance, reconnecting with old friends from school may seem a nice idea, and in many ways it is. You have a lot to talk about, instances to tell, memories to bond over. But you may reconnect with someone you once much-loved. And now that you’re all grown-up you may get the urge to explore feelings that went unreciprocated 20 or 30 years ago. If...