How To Be a Creator, Not a Victim

How you can be a creator and not victim relies on how well you can mentally handle situations that don’t turn out the way you would have liked it to go. It takes a lot of mental attitude to not blame something for your situations outcome. A victim will protect themselves by saying whatever they think that will help gain approval, picture a kid that agrees with everyone but doesn’t say how he/she feels. To be a creator, don’t be scared of your inner critic. Sometimes what you are thinking to say out loud just might help you with whatever you are going through. Unlike victims, creators don’t blame others to protect themselves from failure and disappointment for their own faults. To some this maybe the logical thing to do, for example, teenagers do this a lot no matter what goes wrong. They feel like they’re not the reason for bad outcome but rather someone else is. A creator will take responsibility for their wrongs and try and figure out the next time if this happens, what he or she should do to prevent it. Creators express their upset feelings and thoughts in a way where they still have a good supporting relationships with their friends. They will say something like, “I am angry that you didn’t show up to the computer lab to work on our psychology like you said you would last class period”. He or she didn’t blame their classmate on the importance of the psychology test, but rather he or she expressed how they feel. If you’re scared of asking for help let’s say in a subject your struggling in, a creator knows they can’t reach their goals and dreams by themselves. Asking for help will get you to your goals faster, and help you in the subject you’re having trouble with. It will also allow the professor to know how to help you pass instead of thinking that everyone is doing okay if nobody has asked for help. By adding these things to your daily life, this can help improve your relationships and sometimes replace the ones that you thought were good with better