Wilma J. Barboza, RN, BSN.
Grand Canyon University: HLT-310V
January 12, 2013
Grief and Spirituality in Healthcare
There is an intimate relationship between grief and spirituality before, during and after experiencing pain, agony, and sorrow. Spirituality, faith and belief in God play significant in overcoming sadness, rejection, and grief. The existence of grief is very natural and common It is extremely hard and overwhelming to interact with the people who are grieving in their life for various reasons. In the healthcare system, grief primarily affects the nurses due to nature of their job and their direct involvement with the patient during patient care process. Grief can also influence the hospital staff, including Doctors and patient’s families, relatives, and friends. Therefore it is very critical to understand grieving stages, and effective measures in overcoming the damaging effects of grief towards establishing spirituality, acceptance and Joy to everyone in the health care system. According to Kubler-Ross grief is followed by a natural phenomenon and series of cycles of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptances (Kübler-Ross, 1969). In this literature, we will compare the grieving processes defined by Kübler-Ross against Job, the prophet (Bible) against another religion which is Islam (Quran). We also discuss an Interaction between Joy and grieving models followed by my own preferred methods of handling and overcoming grief. Grieving Processes (Kübler-Ross), Job (Bible), and Islam (Quran) Dr. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross developed and introduced five stages to support and to counsel during personal trauma and grief associated with dying and death and improved the practices associated to bereavement and hospice care. She also specified that the grief cycle actually represents a change model to help and to understand how to deal with and to counsel personal reaction to trauma in the health care environment. These methodologies are not just for death and dying but for everyone who suffers grief (Kübler-Ross, 1969). According to the Old Testament (Bible), Job was abundantly blessed by God, having large family of ten children, loving wife because of his strong faith and belief in God. Job’s wealth and richness was unimaginable comprising significant amount of sheep, camels, Oxen, donkeys, and servants. His greatness and riches flourished amongst all the people in the east being the richest man on earth (Job 1:2-3). He was challenged by Satan with the consent of God with series of tragedies to test his level faith and belief in God during unbearable sufferings in his life (Job 1:2-3). We compare the cycles and stages of grief experienced by Job in relation to the stages of grief defined by Kübler-Ross and with another religion called “Islam”. These stages (cycles) of Grief outlined by Kübler-Ross are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance (Kübler-Ross, 1969). Denial: Denial is the very first stage when someone hears about the loss of their loved ones. In other words denial includes shock of not believing or not agreeing to something happening to their loved ones ((Kübler-Ross, 1969). The tragic death of seven sons and three daughters of Job might have definitely given Job and his wife enough shock to put them straight to the process of denial stage despite Job’s strong faith in Jesus (God). But, Job was not on denial and did not react to his wife’s comments and Satan’s temptations. Instead Job continued praising God for everything and knelt down and said “I was born northing and will die nothing; the Lord gave me everything and now he has it taken away” (Job 1:21). In contrast the Quran (Holy book of Muslims) did not mention that Satan wiped out Job’s family and richness with series of evil events because Satan obtained permission from God. They believe that Allah (God) would not do any harm to his faithful servants. (Quran 38:41)....