Different Ways of Dealing
Whether it is a comic book or a private journal, composing a song or a poem, writing helps people grieve. Some find writing things down relieves pressure from within, while others find that it just relieves pressure from every day life. But no matter what form of writing you choose, they all work. C.S. Lewis, for example, writes about grief in his personal journal that he later publishes for all to see, while Tim O’Brien writes short stories and novels. The Fisher family is a whole different story; they all take the grieving of their father in different ways. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. But what you learn about loss from other people and possibly from your own experiences can help you through difficult situations in the future.
Clive Staples Lewis was a famous Christian theologian. But when his wife Joy died from cancer, his faith was shaken. C.S. Lewis’s story A Grief Observed offers a great deal of insight into the different ways that people deal with grief. He shares his personal, real-life journey of dealing with the death of the one he loved. He describes several stages of grief, many of which were occupied by fear. Lewis states that some of the ways he grieved resembled drunkenness, dizziness, and concussion. At the same time, Clive must have known that Joy was going to die sooner or later so how can he be mad at God? He married her while she was in the hospital; he knew he was marrying a woman who was dying of cancer. And even though there was the unexpected remission, and some good years of reprieve, his experience of marriage with Joy was only a taste. And to Lewis that sudden deprivation brought a brief loss of faith. ‘Where is God?... Go to him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face (Lewis XII).’ He wanted to scream at God, but how could he? He was known around the world as a devout Christian. While...