Goal Setting

"The secret to productive goal setting is in establishing clearly defined goals, writing them down and then focusing on them several times a day with words, pictures and emotions as if we've already achieved them."   - Denis Waitley

For a long time, I have observed a very important metaphysical principle in action - namely if you want something, you don't get it.

The more you want it and the more desperately you try to get it, the less it becomes available; until you are at a point where nothing at all is coming your way if the desperation continues.

This goes from finding mates for mating with, to finding customers to sell things to, to having luck come your way at the race track or waiting desperately for a taxi to turn up and a million more aspects besides - it is indeed, a law of nature that the more needy you are, the less you get given.

And this is the tie in with the "motivational quote" by Denis Waitley above. Please note that he says about goal setting that you should be doing these things *as though you already had them*.

Let me repeat that, because it is really important - AS THOUGH YOU ALREADY HAD THEM.

This is of course the very antithesis of that state of needing and wanting and wishing and praying - you could think of these sorts of states as a metaphorical tugging and whining at the universal skirt for some attention.

Indeed, a simple example would be a person entering a bar to illustrate this point. Let's presume they are desperate (and you know what THOSE sort of people look like, sound like, behave like!) and they're cruising the place with that desperate *extension towards* energy - trying to catch something (or in this case, someone!).

Well, we all know what kind of response such a person would naturally get from everyone concerned - eoow! It is an instinctive pulling away. That same "smell of desperation" also makes clients back off a vendor, business people back off of a travelling salesman and interestingly,... [continues]

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