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WEEK 6: LOVE AND COMMUNICATION IN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS
WHAT IS LOVE?
Love is a special kind of attitude, with strong emotional and behavioral components.
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1
Corinthians 13:4-7)
Love is a temporary insanity curable by marriage or by removal of the patient from the influences under which he incurred the disorder. (Bierce, 1943, p. 202)
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
(Heinlein, 1961, p. 345)
TYPES OF LOVE
1. Passionate Love
It is characterized by intense feelings of tenderness, elation, anxiety, sexual desire, and ecstasy. Generalized physiological arousal, including increased heartbeat, perspiration, blushing, and stomach churning along with a feeling of great excitement, often accompanies this form of love.
Also known as romantic love or infatuation.
Often short-lived, typically measured in months rather than years.
2. Companionate Love
Less intimate than passionate love and is characterized by friendly affection and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with the loved one.
It involves a thoughtful appreciation of one’s partner.
Encompasses a tolerance for another’s shortcomings along with a desire to overcome difficulties and conflicts in a relationship.
Committed to ongoing nurturing of a partnership.
While passionate love is almost always transitory, companionate love is often enduring.
Sex in a companionate relationship typically reflects feelings associated with familiarity, especially the security of knowing what pleases the other. This foundation of knowledge and sexual
WHAT IS LOVE?
Love is a special kind of attitude, with strong emotional and behavioral components.
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1
Corinthians 13:4-7)
Love is a temporary insanity curable by marriage or by removal of the patient from the influences under which he incurred the disorder. (Bierce, 1943, p. 202)
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
(Heinlein, 1961, p. 345)
TYPES OF LOVE
1. Passionate Love
It is characterized by intense feelings of tenderness, elation, anxiety, sexual desire, and ecstasy. Generalized physiological arousal, including increased heartbeat, perspiration, blushing, and stomach churning along with a feeling of great excitement, often accompanies this form of love.
Also known as romantic love or infatuation.
Often short-lived, typically measured in months rather than years.
2. Companionate Love
Less intimate than passionate love and is characterized by friendly affection and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with the loved one.
It involves a thoughtful appreciation of one’s partner.
Encompasses a tolerance for another’s shortcomings along with a desire to overcome difficulties and conflicts in a relationship.
Committed to ongoing nurturing of a partnership.
While passionate love is almost always transitory, companionate love is often enduring.
Sex in a companionate relationship typically reflects feelings associated with familiarity, especially the security of knowing what pleases the other. This foundation of knowledge and sexual